Hedgecutter Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 I know this won't help you on the financial side, but have you tried doing some volunteer work in your spare time? Doing some volunteer work for a charity of some sort on the side (just a couple of hours when you can) might open you up to new fields of work, new friends and you will be highly appreciated for the time you've given. I started helping with the local Scout group when I was going through my depression, although I must admit that I probably wouldn't have during the worst phases as I struggled to do anything sociable. Helped massively in that it forced me to get out the door and meet new folk (starting a fresh) but more importantly it gave me some feeling of usefulness. Have to admit, and it may sound stupid, that at one point I was very close to the suicide route and suddenly thought "shite, Scouts tonight, maybe I should hold off a day for their sake". May sound disrespectful to family, friends etc, but at the time I felt that I was nothing but a burden to them, but Scouts actually needed me that night otherwise it would have been cancelled. Genuinely may have saved me. What disturbs me still is that I was evidently thinking about it in depth, not just acting out of irrational impluse. Feel bad tbh. Thing that kicked it off that day was geocaching (folk said to get outdoors, so seemed a good way to entertain yourself on your lonesome when everyone else was at work). Felt stupid and down having not found a few that folk on the website had said were easy finds, and some guy from an office told me to fcuk off after the cache owner had posted the coordinates very close to his office gate. Thought I was being very discrete, but never noticed the equally discrete overlooking window. That was tough to take after finally doing something recreational to keep out other people's way. That was the worst moment where I just 'knew' the whole world would be a better place without me. Sat at a bus stop (handy for the X7 going to the Stonehaven/Dunnottar cliffs) weighing up the options and eventually for the first time in ages, I had a positive answer to the question "who would care for more if I left the world today?". Well, 20 Scouts thinking they were off on a hike later that day. Buggers managed to make me a Scout leader which I'm still doing though. Fridays gone, fortune saved. More friends made through it etc etc. Wouldn't recommend geocaching when depressed though, as good an idea as it may sound at first. Scouts seem to like it though! Edit to correct the accidentally misplaced apostrophe. I don't want to upset DA Baracus. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
energyzone Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 There are a few but it's hard to put trust in anyone, I've had my fingers burnt a few times. I took time out and went completely out of my way to help and train a colleague then had them drill me for opinions and thoughts. Next thing they are running straight across to them and twisting it all to paint me as some evil maniac who just says bad things out of the blue. If you can't compete then try to bring others down by other means I guess? I really can't understand that way of thinking as I've always been helpful and don't see training and encouraging others as competition, surely it means you get credit and a chance to move onto new things? The thing that annoys me the most is new colleagues acting weird all of a sudden despite me trying my best to be friendly etc, I've now just stopped and I'm concentrating on me and trying to find a solution at work or elsewhere. The stress and strain of it all combined with family members being unwell has set me back so I have to be selfish. One thing I thought was that if the roles were reversed they would make a meal of it and be straight to HR or the boss. Nobody should have to put up with it but the way I've handled it does give me a sense of purpose. It's very draining though, to have to play the part and be typecast as a baddy when you're not. thanks for the reply If the work is becoming unbearable because of your colleague's attitude towards you, do you have the facility to go above the supervisor's head and report it up the chain? You sound like you have some legitimate complaints about the quality of the work and professionalism of your colleagues so I would have thought the senior management in your company would appreciate knowing what exactly is going on, especially if it affects productivity/sales. You might get a bad reputation for doing so but it doesn't sound like it could get much worse for you anyway. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
accies1874 Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 I can feel myself slipping into it a wee bit. I feel like nothing I do actually has a purpose, and even when I'm doing something I enjoy, I just keep thinking that it's going to end. This is a daft way of putting it, but I genuinely feel that I'm on a constant comedown. After last night, I've told myself that I'm gonna try and stop drinking whenever I go out; it's certainly making me feel even worse. My family are incredibly supportive in everything I do, and I'm absolutely fine financially, but my part-time job is constantly bringing me down. I'm also studying journalism, which I feel is a career that's going out the window. I've been feeling it for a while, but I've just tried to ignore it, and I haven't spoken to anyone about it. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 I don't know about stopping drinking completely, Accies, but I know I need to cut down when I do. I enjoy the pub and the social side but don't have great self control when it's time to call it quits. It's good your family are around you and supportive. The easy answer to give is to look for a new part time job? I know it's not as easy as that but it's worth looking if you're hating your current one. The journalism studies sound good. Reputation of the profession has been tarnished a bit but there's still plenty good reporters and it can lead to all sorts of other options. We had a teacher that couldn't stop reminding us they had studied as a journalist. Reporting on the fitba sounds an absolute dream job to me. You've opened up here which might not be talking as such but at least you've got it out. Hopefully some of this ramble helps, probably not but just know you're not alone [emoji106] 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
accies1874 Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Perhaps I was being a bit too dismissive, but I was more focused on print journalism. Also, I work in a chippy, so no chance of a transfer or that. They're desperately understaffed, and it's almost always busy. I've been looking at going for a job centred on something I like (a few jobs at GAME were opening up), but they're all Christmas temps. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 I worked in a bookies when I studied. Enjoyed most of it. Usually always need staff and worth a look if you like sport... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 It's eating that's getting to me. Eating cookies and chocolate in the evening. Making all the hard work running and in the gym pointless. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 For that reason I've stopped buying crisps and biscuits. If they are there, I'll easy just devour the lot. If they're not, I can't. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
accies1874 Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Might be worthwhile bunging in an application for GAME. Although it's a Christmas temp position, if you do well enough then there is the chance that they will offer you a permanent role. Even if they didn't, perhaps it might not hurt to have a couple of months to yourself to do what you want. How far into your course are you? I started back in August. Don't get me wrong; I'm enjoying most of it, and the fact that it'll hopefully end in me being paid to cover football is great. However, it's what happens once I've finished it that worries me. I worked in a bookies when I studied. Enjoyed most of it. Usually always need staff and worth a look if you like sport... There are plenty in Hamilton. I reckon I'd really enjoy it, but going to the Accies games can be respite (although it's obviously not always the case lol), and I'd feel that weekends would be dominated by that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Yeah, you could be right there. There was a lot of weekend work. Wouldn't worry too much about what happens after your course at this stage. Just try to keep enjoying it. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgecutter Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 For that reason I've stopped buying crisps and biscuits. If they are there, I'll easy just devour the lot. If they're not, I can't. I used to get off the bus early three times a week and walk home. Suddenly the "If I have that pint / chocolate then that long walk through the pishing rain will have been pointless" factor kicked in and I lost 3.5 stone over a summer. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blanco Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 23 hours ago, Stellaboz said: It's eating that's getting to me. Eating cookies and chocolate in the evening. Making all the hard work running and in the gym pointless. Keep up the exercise, getting fat from overeating cookies and chocolate will only make you feel worse. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 I know. Sometimes i have to go get them though. It's literally an addiction. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Just a though Stella, try having your supper/dinner/even mean/whatever you call it a bit later? Hopefully help with snacking. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Could do, I'm munching on fcking toffies as I type this. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Snelders Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Stella, do you think you are depressed? Everyone thinks of the person who is depressed not being able to eat or drink- but atypical depression sees people eating far too much. Personally, I fall into this bracket. Also, if you are taking medication, some of these increase your appetite, I had terrible problems with Mirtazipine. Great anti-depressant, but had to stop taking it because I balooned and deficit outweighed the benefits. Otherwise, all I can say is when you get the munchies, try to munch on fruit and veg-and keep going with the excersise. It will help you feel better. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 No, not anymore but I always have to try combat it before it creeps back in from a horrible phase of my life several years ago. I have some thoughts as to why but I'll write them tonight, have to go to work. I suffer from seasonal ah....something disorder though, have done since a child and that's probably the main reason right now. The sharp change in temperature and the shorter days affect me more than i always care to admit, despite the fact I like the dark evenings. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Snelders Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Seasonal Affective Disorder? Yeah, that's more common than a lot of people think, and up there in Aberdeen the days get very cold and short indeed. Also, the munchies can be a natural reaction to almost going into hibernation mode for folk. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RH33 Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Have you got a light box? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgecutter Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Also, if you are taking medication, some of these increase your appetite, I had terrible problems with Mirtazipine. Great anti-depressant, but had to stop taking it because I balooned and deficit outweighed the benefits. I noticed this also. Put on maybe a stone but was unsure whether it was a genuine direct side effect itself or because I ate more. Probably the latter seeing as I was at home a lot with a big thing they call a fridge. Otherwise, all I can say is when you get the munchies, try to munch on fruit and veg-and keep going with the excersise. It will help you feel better. Exactly the advice my GP gave me when I mentioned the weight gain. Low calorie drinks (squash etc) can also trick your mind into thinking you've had something. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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