Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I think I'm very polite and pride myself on my manners, but I do feel that the normal please / thank-you is reducing in our modern society. As a youngster, both my parents & most of my relatives would insist on a please when I asked for something and would pull me up on it - even pre-school age, if I didn't act with manners. How are other P&Bers with their manners and maybe more importantly, if you have kids, do you insist they are always polite? Good manners cost nothing etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Fifer Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I think I'm very polite and pride myself on my manners, but I do feel that the normal please / thank-you is reducing in our modern society. As a youngster, both my parents & most of my relatives would insist on a please when I asked for something and would pull me up on it - even pre-school age, if I didn't act with manners. How are other P&Bers with their manners and maybe more importantly, if you have kids, do you insist they are always polite? Good manners cost nothing etc. Working whilst studying at the moment and the job involves a hefty amount of customer service. Basically, I've learned people are b*****d coated b*****ds with b*****d fillings. Manners barely exist anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Moonster Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I was once given £1 by an Irishman for holding the door open for him in Buchanan Galleries. He thanked my mother for raising such a well mannered boy, gave me a quid and walked off. It would appear good manners do cost something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnightswoodBear Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I think my manners are exemplarily and over all people around me have good manners, although i don't work in customer care. Some things that people do really make my skin crawl though - quite often this involves people being on their phones i really can't stand people who semi engage me in conversation then when i respond to them have found something on their phone that is more interesting then don't respond to me because they are staring at a screen. I also really despise when people answer their phones and speak to someone else when they are in my company, i don't want to hear your fucking conversation take it fucking outside! This is made all the worse when there are more than just two of you there and the group have to sit there and get by when someone is talking away on their phone. I started reading this, then I got a twitter notification on my phone and paid attention to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boostin' Kev Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 A lot of it is to do with arrogance. This is contrary to the stereotypes of the areas but I see more manners used here than a previous place I stayed which a lot of people see as a desirable area to be in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I notice that too, I would never ever, not be polite. People seem to be too wrapped up in their own shit to even make an attempt at making someone else's day a little less shit. For instance, if I go to the chippy/chipper, MB- can I have a fish supper, two single steak pies and a king rib supper please. Chip Lady- No problem, (shouts order to fryer.) MB- I'm very sorry, I've forgotten what the wife and kids want, can you give me a second to call them please........ Chip Lady- No, you've had your chance, join the back of the queue. MB- Ok thanks, no problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Saintee Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I was once given £1 by an Irishman for holding the door open for him in Buchanan Galleries. He thanked my mother for raising such a well mannered boy, gave me a quid and walked off. It would appear good manners do cost something. Neil Lennon? Sounds like the kind of thing he'd do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I was once given £1 by an Irishman for holding the door open for him in Buchanan Galleries. He thanked my mother for raising such a well mannered boy, gave me a quid and walked off. It would appear good manners do cost something. Apparently when I was around 3 years old, I was on the bus with my mum and asked if I could have a sweetie please. Said sweeties were chewits and I unwrapped mine and put the wrapper in my duffle coat pocket, an elderly gentleman commented on my manners and the fact that I had put the wrapper in my pocket rather than dropping it on the bus floor. Also said to my mum that she had raised a nice little boy and gave her £5 to put in my bankie. Needless to say, my mum spent it on a half bag of brown and I never saw it..... But that's a whole different story. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 These sort of actions from a stranger can put you in a bad mood for the rest of your day - if you are around people who are acting like that then the negativity can so easily rub off on you. A few weeks ago i was driving to Asda's and the lights at the pedestrian crossing were green for traffic and i could quite clearly see there was this guy crossing when he shouldn't, i spotted him quite early and slowed down for him and he stared at me with a look of "what the f**k are you going to do about it." A less observant driver could well have ran him over which was my thought at the time and no less than he deserved. He's very lucky you weren't distracted by the fungus on your back seat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I'd just like to say thank you to all that have responded to this new thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnightswoodBear Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I'd just like to say thank you to all that have responded to this new thread. Sorry, I wasn't paying attention. C*nt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Moonster Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Neil Lennon? Sounds like the kind of thing he'd do. He looked more like Paddy McCourt to be honest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karpaty Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Does seem like a culture thing, I remember being in Eastern Europe and holding a door open for this really nice blonde and she just looked at me. Either that doesn't happen often there or I'm just an ugly c**t. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 A lot of it is to do with arrogance. This is contrary to the stereotypes of the areas but I see more manners used here than a previous place I stayed which a lot of people see as a desirable area to be in. Completely agree, my sister has had the same upbringing as me, she is married to quite a wealthy guy and is constantly embarrassing me in restaurants etc with her poor manners and arrogance, as if marrying a millionaire gives her the right to be anti-social. Incidentally, her husband is one of the nicest, most polite and humble guys I have ever met, I often see him giving her a sideways glance when she is rude, whereas I call her out on it as soon as the person she has been rude to is out of earshot. Another sign of my manners, not wanting someone embroiled in a family argument.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 Sorry, I wasn't paying attention. C*nt. You are now, thanks. Kind sir. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boostin' Kev Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Completely agree, my sister has had the same upbringing as me, she is married to quite a wealthy guy and is constantly embarrassing me in restaurants etc with her poor manners and arrogance, as if marrying a millionaire gives her the right to be anti-social. Incidentally, her husband is one of the nicest, most polite and humble guys I have ever met, I often see him giving her a sideways glance when she is rude, whereas I call her out on it as soon as the person she has been rude to is out of earshot. Another sign of my manners, not wanting someone embroiled in a family argument.... You're definitely a martyr for the cause. I agree, the nouveau riche are the worst for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 You're definitely a martyr for the cause. I agree, the nouveau riche are the worst for it. She is hardly nouveau riche, my father used to own large tracts of the Scottish countryside and lost it all in the well publicised "Redmond Hill Grange" crisis. I think she is just bitter at all that.... But I agree, the new money seem to be worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Believe The Hype Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I have a 6 year old son, and have brought him up to so please and thank you, I no longer have to ask him what the 'magic word' is. He is also at the stage now where he pays compliments off his own back which is great to see and very encouraging, gid wee fella. However as throbber pointed out, the phone thing pisses me off. I know people who have great manners in the sense of respect and please and thank you etc but can be constantly glued to their phone in the pub, burns ma fucking toast so it does!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I'd politely ask you to at least spell my name correctly, please. To answer your question. Not really sure tbh, I always identified more with "the staff" than my parents and their friends. Indeed, it was actually me, as a thirteen year old, that persuaded the employees to become unionised, we studied unions in modern studies that day at school. That very evening, I assembled all 322 estate workers to a secret meeting in the hanging barn (deer, not people), and persuaded them of the advantages of solidarity as a working force- sort of, one out- all out, speech. It ultimately led to my family losing everything, and my fathers subsequent suicide. But I think it was worth it, as I now say please & thank you to taxi drivers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mortar Bored Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I have a 6 year old son, and have brought him up to so please and thank you, I no longer have to ask him what the 'magic word' is. He is also at the stage now where he pays compliments off his own back which is great to see and very encouraging, gid wee fella. However as throbber pointed out, the phone thing pisses me off. I know people who have great manners in the sense of respect and please and thank you etc but can be constantly glued to their phone in the pub, burns ma fucking toast so it does!! It does indeed make you very proud to have children with manners. Good on you & your son. It's a skill seldom lost and will hopefully stand him in good stead. Thank you for your participation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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