Steven Seagal

So we had the scan. It went okay - the scan showed that the amniotic band is quite far over to one side and so far the baby doesn't seem to have had any dealings with it. All fingers, toes and limbs present and correct. Very wriggly. Things are not going well between my wife and I, though. My wife says she is finding it very difficult to trust me. In her eyes (and not entirely without reason) she thinks I should have had all this nipped in the bud with my mum months and months ago. But I didn't as I tried to keep everyone happy, and now of course it has escalated and this has happened. My wife is incredibly angry that my mum and aunts have ganged up on her. And I can understand why. I really hope this all blows over. The thought of losing my family over this terrifies me.

Thanks for all the comments, folks. They're all genuinely appreciated. So, things are still going poorly. I went up to see my mum and dad on Sunday morning and took a note that my wife had written explaining our daughter's routine. My mum took it the wrong way and was very hurt by it (as I've explained due to my wife's ADHD she has difficulties communicating). My dad was understandably on my mum's side but he did say that if he was in my position he'd be doing exactly the same as me - so at least he seems to kind of understand. I took the wee one up to see them on Sunday evening which went okay. Today was the first day that my mum had been looking after her since the events, and when I went to pick her up just after five my mum gave me a note explaining to the exact minute what our daughter's day had been like to show that she had stuck to the routine. At the end of it (it was addressed to my wife) it had a sentence saying "if you want to, feel free to pay a home help to stick to your routine to the letter". I can totally understand my mum's point - she has been a massive source of help to us, and we are very grateful, but at the same time we have to get our daughter into as consistent a routine as possible regardless of who she's with. We've booked into a private scan tomorrow to keep tabs on Baby Number 2 as on Monday we were taken into triage from 7:30 until 11:00 as my wife had been experiencing pains. Again they couldn't reassure us about the amniotic band but they did say the worry was more than likely what had caused the pains. Keeping everything crossed for tomorrow.

Sorry for the amount of posts, but it helps me a bit just getting stuff out there. My aunt and I have been texting each other today a few times. I'm incredibly annoyed at her, not least for showing my mum my wife's text, but also for telling her other sister (my other aunt) what has been going on. So now my wife feels utterly humiliated as (not entirely without reason) she feels like my mum and two aunts have been talking about her, and it won't be nice things. Last night my wife said that the only solution she could see would be for us to finish. I don't think she really meant it and of course I told her that's not really what she wants and definitely not what I want. Thankfully she hasn't mentioned it again today so I think she realises she was being silly. I asked if I could meet my aunt and mum tomorrow and explain a bit about what has been going on. Problem is that my mum breaking from our routine should have been addressed months ago, but wasn't, and now has escalated. My mum doesn't feel ready to meet me yet but she did say that she hopes that me and my daughter are fine and that she still loves me (I'm guessing that she deliberately didn't mention my wife's name when saying we're okay). To make things worse my aunt has now got it into her head that my wife is depressed, which she's not. She does have ADHD and as a result has difficulties with communication and maintaining relationships, but I've lived with her when she's had depression before and I know she's not gotten it now. This claim is therefore annoying her greatly. My aunt just seems to be making things worse even though she's trying to help. Aaargh!

So, aye. Things have not gone well. We had our 20-week scan today (yeah, so this will give the game away to a few folk). At the scan we found out my wife as an Ambiotic Band. This has stressed my wife and I out. To make things worse, I've been talking to my aunt over the past week about how best to approach things with my mum. My aunt's went and told my mum everything and had a text-argument with my wife. Today my mum found out about this and wanted to come along to see me. Cue my mum and wife getting incredibly upset and my mum storming out of the house refusing to speak to anyone. This is fucking shite. I feel sick.

Long-time user posting under my 'other' account. So aye, families, eh? Since the wee one was born my mum has taken on a massive role in helping out with her. We used to stay just over the road and was going there at least a few days every week while my wife and I were working. This worked pretty well to begin with, but then my mum started doing things 'her' way rather than ours. We are trying to get the weeone into a routine but she's not helping - sometimes she has left the wee one with another family member, has been giving her her dinner hours too early, trying to potty train her too early and so on. We've bit our tongue because she really is a fantastic help to us but this has kept going on and on, and now my wife is understandably a bit upset about it all. Thing is, I have absolutely no idea how to bring up the subject with my mum at all. My sister and I were looked after by our mum's parents while we were young and she was working, and she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong. But we have another wee one on the way and need to get our first-born into as good a routine as possible. Anyone any tips / advice?

*Whisper* Boring, you say? An unbeliever it would seem. I hope you like watching over your shoulder for the rest of your life.

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