With what I do, there isn't a lot of dignity kicking about this area of life.
E.g. getting solicitors to write a letter to a dad who had bought a football kit about how this was extravagant & unfair as the mum couldn't afford to do that so it had to go back.
Or a dad refusing to move a hearing date which fell on his sons birthday after the mother's request.
Although there was a dad who was just keeping all the children's clothes as some points scoring exercise that I found pretty funny.