Pregnancy And Parenting

[Dons_1988]

Don’t think that’s abnormal. 

As mentioned before I’m absolutely loving being a dad but only 5 months in I’d absolutely love a weekend free to have an away day and a few beers or whatever. 

It’s all consuming and everyone needs a break. 

[thistledo]

Don't know how single parents do it tbh, wouldn't even be able to even go for a shite in peace without the other half being around to look after the wee yin at that point. 

[Dons_1988]

Another tedious update from me. 

Another mixed week of feeding with some bottles downed without an issue and others her barely interested in. 

Another week where my wife is utterly convinced something is badly wrong and I am far more concerned about her mental health than the wee one. 

We’ve now had the health visitor, a GP who checked her over and a family member who’s a retired paediatrician tell us that the likelihood is that everything is fine and it will pass. 

However she still puts an enormous amount of pressure on every feed and is often in floods of tears after difficult ones. She has this fatalistic idea that her development and growth is being permanently damaged by this 3 weeks. She’s also back to utterly refusing the idea there’s anything wrong with her and she’s just a worried mum. I feel like I can’t push that too far as she perceives it as me dismissing her concerns about the little one. but this feeding issue is just the latest in a line of things in 5 months that make me think she’s in a bad place mentally. 

She insists she’ll be fine once the feeding is ok but I don’t see it, another issue will come up and it’ll derail her again. 

I probably should be putting this in the depression thread in all honesty. Sorry for spamming but I don’t really know what to do other than just endure it and support. 

[Jacksgranda]

6 minutes ago, Dons_1988 said:

Another tedious update from me. 

Another mixed week of feeding with some bottles downed without an issue and others her barely interested in. 

Another week where my wife is utterly convinced something is badly wrong and I am far more concerned about her mental health than the wee one. 

We’ve now had the health visitor, a GP who checked her over and a family member who’s a retired paediatrician tell us that the likelihood is that everything is fine and it will pass. 

However she still puts an enormous amount of pressure on every feed and is often in floods of tears after difficult ones. She has this fatalistic idea that her development and growth is being permanently damaged by this 3 weeks. She’s also back to utterly refusing the idea there’s anything wrong with her and she’s just a worried mum. I feel like I can’t push that too far as she perceives it as me dismissing her concerns about the little one. but this feeding issue is just the latest in a line of things in 5 months that make me think she’s in a bad place mentally. 

She insists she’ll be fine once the feeding is ok but I don’t see it, another issue will come up and it’ll derail her again. 

I probably should be putting this in the depression thread in all honesty. Sorry for spamming but I don’t really know what to do other than just endure it and support. 

You can put it in there, too, but it's fine here.

[Rugster]

29 minutes ago, Dons_1988 said:

Another tedious update from me. 

Another mixed week of feeding with some bottles downed without an issue and others her barely interested in. 

Another week where my wife is utterly convinced something is badly wrong and I am far more concerned about her mental health than the wee one. 

We’ve now had the health visitor, a GP who checked her over and a family member who’s a retired paediatrician tell us that the likelihood is that everything is fine and it will pass. 

However she still puts an enormous amount of pressure on every feed and is often in floods of tears after difficult ones. She has this fatalistic idea that her development and growth is being permanently damaged by this 3 weeks. She’s also back to utterly refusing the idea there’s anything wrong with her and she’s just a worried mum. I feel like I can’t push that too far as she perceives it as me dismissing her concerns about the little one. but this feeding issue is just the latest in a line of things in 5 months that make me think she’s in a bad place mentally. 

She insists she’ll be fine once the feeding is ok but I don’t see it, another issue will come up and it’ll derail her again. 

I probably should be putting this in the depression thread in all honesty. Sorry for spamming but I don’t really know what to do other than just endure it and support. 

I can’t really offer much advice as our two were fine with feeding but one thing I will say is don’t apologise for posting it in here and you’re not spamming. Keep posting, because it will help you get it off your chest and there are a lot of good people in here who may have advice. Don’t stop posting about it mate. 

[Dons_1988]

42 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said:

You can put it in there, too, but it's fine here.

 

18 minutes ago, Rugster said:

I can’t really offer much advice as our two were fine with feeding but one thing I will say is don’t apologise for posting it in here and you’re not spamming. Keep posting, because it will help you get it off your chest and there are a lot of good people in here who may have advice. Don’t stop posting about it mate. 

Thanks gents 

[Bairnardo]

Youngest (4 years old) had her first shot on a train today. Its really amazing what the pandemic has snatched from the youngsters when you think of it.... When this shit kicked off she was a wee tot really.

Anyway, had a wee trip to Glasgow for our dinner. Train, Italian restaurant, bottle of wine for me and the wife, Pizza and a fucking huge dessert for the kids. Exactly the sort of day out I always envisaged that my family would enjoy. Really fucking loved it tbh. Kids sat at the window seat of the booth we were at and got waves off passers by and drivers etc. They were absolutely buzzing. All the rage they cause me on a daily basis melted away today wathcing them be absolutely buzzing about something as daft as going out for dinner.

[Busta Nut]

@Dons_1988 I can't really offer any advice either. I only hope you and your missus get the support you need. I think your venting in here is welcome as we will want to hear how your are progressing and how triumphant you feel once you are at the other side.

[RH33]

22 hours ago, Bairnardo said:

Youngest (4 years old) had her first shot on a train today. Its really amazing what the pandemic has snatched from the youngsters when you think of it.... When this shit kicked off she was a wee tot really.

Anyway, had a wee trip to Glasgow for our dinner. Train, Italian restaurant, bottle of wine for me and the wife, Pizza and a fucking huge dessert for the kids. Exactly the sort of day out I always envisaged that my family would enjoy. Really fucking loved it tbh. Kids sat at the window seat of the booth we were at and got waves off passers by and drivers etc. They were absolutely buzzing. All the rage they cause me on a daily basis melted away today wathcing them be absolutely buzzing about something as daft as going out for dinner.

For the October week, i booked various things, airthrill, softplay, time capsule and we ate out most days. I only had my girls as son was away. 

Was so nice being able to get the kids out to do normal stuff again that all too soon, they'll be too old to do.

[lichtie23]

On 22/10/2021 at 09:39, Dons_1988 said:

Another tedious update from me. 

Another mixed week of feeding with some bottles downed without an issue and others her barely interested in. 

Another week where my wife is utterly convinced something is badly wrong and I am far more concerned about her mental health than the wee one. 

We’ve now had the health visitor, a GP who checked her over and a family member who’s a retired paediatrician tell us that the likelihood is that everything is fine and it will pass. 

However she still puts an enormous amount of pressure on every feed and is often in floods of tears after difficult ones. She has this fatalistic idea that her development and growth is being permanently damaged by this 3 weeks. She’s also back to utterly refusing the idea there’s anything wrong with her and she’s just a worried mum. I feel like I can’t push that too far as she perceives it as me dismissing her concerns about the little one. but this feeding issue is just the latest in a line of things in 5 months that make me think she’s in a bad place mentally. 

She insists she’ll be fine once the feeding is ok but I don’t see it, another issue will come up and it’ll derail her again. 

I probably should be putting this in the depression thread in all honesty. Sorry for spamming but I don’t really know what to do other than just endure it and support. 

Hi mate. My wife suffered pretty badly with Post Natal Depression after the birth of our wee man. If you want to chat/vent/talk football/call me c**t then just fire me a message. All you can really do is support her which at times is extremely difficult. 

[Mallo_Madrid]

The wife had the twenty week scan today. Have to say the sonographer today was absolutely brilliant, loads of detail and explained everything she was doing and measuring. At previous 20 week scans with the other kids I thought sonographer was mute until she said do you have any questions.

Anyway - another wee boy. 

That'll be me coaching the kids football teams for a little longer. Superb.

[scottsdad]

5 minutes ago, Mallo_Madrid said:

The wife had the twenty week scan today. Have to say the sonographer today was absolutely brilliant, loads of detail and explained everything she was doing and measuring. At previous 20 week scans with the other kids I thought sonographer was mute until she said do you have any questions.

Anyway - another wee boy. 

That'll be me coaching the kids football teams for a little longer. Superb.

Good they told you - not every health board does. We didn't know my daughter was a girl until she was born. 

[Mallo_Madrid]

3 minutes ago, scottsdad said:

Good they told you - not every health board does. We didn't know my daughter was a girl until she was born. 

We have now found out with all three. Makes life so much easier getting ready. 

No issues in D&G with letting you know.

[scottsdad]

2 minutes ago, Mallo_Madrid said:

We have now found out with all three. Makes life so much easier getting ready. 

No issues in D&G with letting you know.

Forth valley didn't tell us. Some issue with some fathers kicking off at the sonographers when they didn't get the result they wanted.

[Mallo_Madrid]

3 minutes ago, scottsdad said:

Forth valley didn't tell us. Some issue with some fathers kicking off at the sonographers when they didn't get the result they wanted.

That is mental (by fathers). 

What is wrong with some people.

[Jacksgranda]

39 minutes ago, Mallo_Madrid said:

That is mental (by fathers). 

What is wrong with some people.

Second youngest stepdaughter has had 4 daughters by her partner. (I said the last 3 would be girls.) I know her partner is disappointed in not having a son to pass the farm onto. (Jack isn't interested and it's just as well, as he wouldn't have got it, it might go to partner's sister's wee boy, if he's interested.)

However, if he is disappointed he hides it well, the sheer joy on his face when he came to collect the youngest one the other day was a sight to behold.

(He seemed happy enough to see the other two as well...)

[PB1994]

Night number 6 in hospital for us after rushing the eldest child (6) to hospital last Wednesday morning. Turns out he has type 1 diabetes. I must say he has taken it like an absolute champion with the constant, well it feels like it anyway, blood sugar checks and insulin injections but there are have been a few times where the mask has slipped and you can tell he is struggling to come to terms with it and it is heartbreaking to watch.

Its obviously a hell of a lot for him to take in and we aren’t allowed to leave until the nurses are happy we can do everything comfortably so hopefully when we do get home we can settle back into a “normal” routine which will make everything a bit easier.

[RH33]

19 minutes ago, PB1994 said:

Night number 6 in hospital for us after rushing the eldest child (6) to hospital last Wednesday morning. Turns out he has type 1 diabetes. I must say he has taken it like an absolute champion with the constant, well it feels like it anyway, blood sugar checks and insulin injections but there are have been a few times where the mask has slipped and you can tell he is struggling to come to terms with it and it is heartbreaking to watch.

Its obviously a hell of a lot for him to take in and we aren’t allowed to leave until the nurses are happy we can do everything comfortably so hopefully when we do get home we can settle back into a “normal” routine which will make everything a bit easier.

One of my son's friends was diagnosed last year and gas adapted very quickly. He was 11 though so probably bit easier. 

There was also a wee boy in nursery with my girls, he had the insulin pump fitted and again didn't bat an eye lid.

Worrying times but hopefully you'll get home and settled soon.

 

[Dons_1988]

Thanks @Busta Nut and @lichtie23 for the kind posts. 

Ive not really had the time between everything to post anything that articulate but will do at some point. 

In short, nothing really improved. Feeding remains mixed, wee one is healthy but doesn’t feel like a sustainable amount she’s having. We’ve booked to see an infant dietician tomorrow. Not sure how confident I am in that but at least a different insight. 

The wife’s mood is still in the bin and cries after every feed and more. She has at least booked to see the GP for herself in a couple of weeks time. 

[RH33]

1 hour ago, Dons_1988 said:

Thanks @Busta Nut and @lichtie23 for the kind posts. 

Ive not really had the time between everything to post anything that articulate but will do at some point. 

In short, nothing really improved. Feeding remains mixed, wee one is healthy but doesn’t feel like a sustainable amount she’s having. We’ve booked to see an infant dietician tomorrow. Not sure how confident I am in that but at least a different insight. 

The wife’s mood is still in the bin and cries after every feed and more. She has at least booked to see the GP for herself in a couple of weeks time. 

Is this a private dietician?