Blootoon87 Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 On the minute chance that some absolute ride wanted her hole from me, I doubt I'd have the self control to say no. That's why I'm single (that and being pretty repellent to women). 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 1 minute ago, ayrmad said: Loads of dafties out there, it's alarming that the most prevalent shaggers out there appear to be the most indiscreet, I think it's down to a serious lack of self esteem. I'd say the indiscretion suggests a complete lack of respect for their partner more than them lacking self esteem. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widge Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 On the minute chance that some absolute ride wanted her hole from me, I doubt I'd have the self control to say no. That's why I'm single (that and being pretty repellent to women). Yeah, but you're saying that as someone who is actually single and therefore it isn't even a thought which would cross you're mind. If you're in a relationship with someone who you enjoy being with, find attractive and can see a future with, I suspect you wouldn't on the off chance of shagging a tidy in a one off thing. In my head it's a case of caring about someone so much that the thought of doing anything to upset and hurt them is worse than anything you could do to yourself. Maybe that's just my outlook on it and the thought of cheating is a horrible one and something which has never once crossed my mind, even if I was presented with the slightest opportunity. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 6 minutes ago, sjc said: I'd say the indiscretion suggests a complete lack of respect for their partner more than them lacking self esteem. There will be a lack of respect there but the underlying issue for most will be low self esteem. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 3 minutes ago, Widge said: Yeah, but you're saying that as someone who is actually single and therefore it isn't even a thought which would cross you're mind. If you're in a relationship with someone who you enjoy being with, find attractive and can see a future with, I suspect you wouldn't on the off chance of shagging a tidy in a one off thing. In my head it's a case of caring about someone so much that the thought of doing anything to upset and hurt them is worse than anything you could do to yourself. Maybe that's just my outlook on it and the thought of cheating is a horrible one and something which has never once crossed my mind, even if I was presented with the slightest opportunity. You only truly know if you'd be faithful if you've had offers and rejected them IMO. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 5 minutes ago, Widge said: Yeah, but you're saying that as someone who is actually single and therefore it isn't even a thought which would cross you're mind. If you're in a relationship with someone who you enjoy being with, find attractive and can see a future with, I suspect you wouldn't on the off chance of shagging a tidy in a one off thing. In my head it's a case of caring about someone so much that the thought of doing anything to upset and hurt them is worse than anything you could do to yourself. Maybe that's just my outlook on it and the thought of cheating is a horrible one and something which has never once crossed my mind, even if I was presented with the slightest opportunity. Infidelity is not always a black & white situation. Sometimes the cheating is a direct reaction to failings of the other partner in the relationship. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heedthebaa Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Moaning about the price of materials I need for the garden, concrete, decking, paint, sand etc. Of course she doesn't take into account that I do all the fucking work myself,so free labour which is the killer 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blootoon87 Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Anyone who says they would never cheat on a partner is a liar or delusional. With the best intentions in the world, there are circumstances where you wouldn't say no. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honest_Man#1 Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 18 minutes ago, Blootoon87 said: Anyone who says they would never cheat on a partner is a liar or delusional. With the best intentions in the world, there are circumstances where you wouldn't say no. I can categorically say that I wouldn't. Ariana Grande could present herself to me and I'd walk away. I wouldn't give up a life with someone, kids etc for 10 mins inside some 10/10. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Nope, still wouldn't. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I can categorically say that I wouldn't. Ariana Grande could present herself to me and I'd walk away. I wouldn't give up a life with someone, kids etc for 10 mins inside some 10/10. Nope, still wouldn't. What if you were bevvied? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 19 minutes ago, Honest_Man#1 said: I can categorically say that I wouldn't. Ariana Grande could present herself to me and I'd walk away. I wouldn't give up a life with someone, kids etc for 10 mins inside some 10/10. Have you ever had a 10/10 laying it on a plate for you? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Co.Down Hibee Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I think the whole question of infidelity is about what you consider cheating, a one night fling on a trip away or something is surely less harmful or disrespectful than an actual relationship with somebody else ,secret rendezvous and so on. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GingerSaint Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 22 minutes ago, G_Man1985 said: Cheating is cheating. Quite straight forward Great insight. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irvine_buddie Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 58 minutes ago, Honest_Man#1 said: I can categorically say that I wouldn't. Ariana Grande could present herself to me and I'd walk away. I wouldn't give up a life with someone, kids etc for 10 mins inside some 10/10. If she presented herself to me I reckon I could phone my missus and she'd give me permission to go ahead with it.. good story to tell for her . 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 What if you were bevvied? I've been bevvied and some lass I've been talking to on a night out has came in for a kiss and I've backed out. She was very attractive, which hasn't often happened in my life! Wouldn't smash Katy Perry in any situation now as it would break my lass' heart and even if she never knew, that's just as bad. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthernJambo Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I've been bevvied and some lass I've been talking to on a night out has came in for a kiss and I've backed out. She was very attractive, which hasn't often happened in my life! Wouldn't smash Katy Perry in any situation now as it would break my lass' heart and even if she never knew, that's just as bad. Fair play mate. Although I'm (happily) single just now I reckon those days are behind me now. I was in steady relationships pretty much between 17-25 and I used to be a bit of an arse, drunken fumbles on nights out etc., not proud of past indiscretions but they happened. Some I was honest about, some I lied about. I would caveat it with there's a difference between cheating on a bird you've been with for years than a bird you've been seeing a few weeks, and a big difference between an optimistic mistake (if that's the right phrase) and a planned out affair. Not that either are better or worse, just there's a difference imo 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I feel that if people realised the carnage that can result from a break up then less people would jump about, I know that my wife leaving me due to my gambling had a catastrophic impact on some of my kids, short term gains aren't worth that IMHO. I'm glad in one respect that I was a slapper before I was married, regrettably you're tramping over quite a few peoples feelings when you're a slapper. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dee Man Posted June 13, 2017 Author Share Posted June 13, 2017 12 minutes ago, ayrmad said: I feel that if people realised the carnage that can result from a break up then less people would jump about, I know that my wife leaving me due to my gambling had a catastrophic impact on some of my kids, short term gains aren't worth that IMHO. I'm glad in one respect that I was a slapper before I was married, regrettably you're tramping over quite a few peoples feelings when you're a slapper. If you're a slapper, you are by definition just having one night stands, ergo so are the people you're sleeping with. I highly doubt people get serious feelings for someone after a one night stand. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 11 minutes ago, Dee Man said: If you're a slapper, you are by definition just having one night stands, ergo so are the people you're sleeping with. I highly doubt people get serious feelings for someone after a one night stand. Nonsense. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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