Venti Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Going so long feeling like this isn't going to have a quick solution sadly. I think you should not worry about work parties etc right now. Just take small steps. Focus on your job & small interactions with people. Maybe cut back on the drink also? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMac29 Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Hi Donnie I try and find out firstly how many people are going to be at the night out befiore deciding on if i should go or the best excuse i can come up with i am doing CBT at the moment. was asked if there was a specific moment in life which has mad me feel this way. I said no. But recently have veeb trying to go back and think of bad things which have happened and i came up with one When i was 22 i was takin E's and coke every weekend One time my dealer gave me a big bag of speed which was over the top in terms of quantity Got that fcuked up on i reailsed my jeans were dirty so went to the nearest train station and climbed to the top and waited for a train to arrive before trying to jump off luckily my mates were calling me non stop so decided against it. I can vaguely remember being at a party at the night before and was convinced i was being laughed at cos my jeans were dirty. White jeans btw lol These days i just feel i dont add much cos i am so quiet without a drink in me i am desperste to fight it and want to just get on in life concentrating on the job at the moment but in time i know the work night will come i am very quiet that some folk may think it seems ignorant 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMac29 Posted August 2, 2014 Share Posted August 2, 2014 Hi slenderman i have stopped my meds was also given propanolol but havent taken them as much drink is my only wee fallback if i could go out and enjoy myself without it then i would give the drink a rest believe me drink makes me open up. Dont have much feelings without it it just flicks a switch 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SteelJag Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 Hi slenderman i have stopped my meds was also given propanolol but havent taken them as much drink is my only wee fallback if i could go out and enjoy myself without it then i would give the drink a rest believe me drink makes me open up. Dont have much feelings without it it just flicks a switch My social anxiety is quite bad, i chew my nails because I would scratch my arms to f**k if i had them. I'm usually okay with going out so i cant comprehend how bad it must be for you. My GP recommended breathing exercises and meditation, he had SA and said the breathing changed his life. Me thinks the problem with SA is over analysis of situations. I have been on Sertraline for 4 weeks now and today i finally felt different. The SA isnt as bad and there is some serotonin kicking about in my head. I had the most miserable day today but have managed to feel okay. Anti depressents work differently on everyone so maybe just try others until you find the right one I 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMac29 Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 had awful side effects from setraline steeljag tried citalopram too but was coinstantly tired on them and a lot of sexual side effects from them too how do you cope with social gatherings? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyle Lanley Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Again feeling like shit 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Ginger Prince Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Again feeling like shit Chin up mate. PM if you want. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyle Lanley Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Chin up mate. PM if you want. Luckily the footy is back on tonight so that will take my mind off a few things for a few hours 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rambunctious Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 Luckily the footy is back on tonight so that will take my mind off a few things for a few hours I think the football is genuinely a big help in these situations. It's one thing that'll always draw my full attention anyway (it's hard to not care about your team!). Here's to a Hibees win. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted August 10, 2014 Share Posted August 10, 2014 Had a really good week, back working in education (so feel useful once again). Amazing how something so basic can put a smile on my face 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blootoon87 Posted August 11, 2014 Share Posted August 11, 2014 I honestly don't think I'm depressed and reading this thread has made me see people are worse off than me. However, I am just fed up with everything. I can't see me getting wound up or genuinely excited about the foreseeable future. Whenever I have free time I just end up excessively drinking for no real reason. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DAFC Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 ok here goes basically fucked up in the head for roughly past years mainly social anxiety and slightly depressed been given fluoxetine which has helped with the depression but not the SA i am terrified of going out if it involves more than one person. I can cope if just goin out with someone and thats it Anytime i am out all i can think of is just being back home cos i feel safe there To compensate i end up getting smashed as a coping mechanism which sometimes leads to other problems i have started a new job and its been going well but the work night out will arrive at some point I want to fit in as much as i can but at the same time i want to keep myself to myself Any others with social anxiety with tips on coping in the office? Going through a very similar situation to you, lost all my friends apart from one and he died last year. Took a betrayal very badly and developed mild social anxiety and depression as a result. For about ten years apart from work I was hardly out the house. Took to drinking on my own and put on weight and just became bitter about what happened. Best thing I can advise is to start some sort, any sort, of exercise. You can do it alone at first and meet up with others once you feel more confident. Like you I struggle in social situations, it can be frustrating as it's holding back my career at work. I know I have great ideas and I am as good as others in higher positions but just hold back for fear of rejection. Same goes for dating and finding new friends. Last year was hell, the one friend who understood me passed away and because of my withdrawal I didn't get a chance to go to his funeral. Recently though I have started getting more confident through exercise and trying very hard to reach out and speak to people at work. Regarding the night out, just have a few drinks and have a taxi booked to pick you up early doors. People will still think you tried to be sociable. Everyone else is shitting themselves too and hide it by small talk or acting confident, just go with an attitude of thinking you have something valuable to offer conversations. If people don't like it that says more about them than you. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyle Lanley Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 (edited) Can everyone just f**k off Edited August 17, 2014 by Eoin Doyle 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smurph Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Could be worse mate. You could be a Hibs fan. Edit: Oh. Edited August 18, 2014 by Smurph 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyle Lanley Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Could be worse mate. You could be a Hibs fan. Edit: Oh. That did bring a smile to my face mate. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
11thHour Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 Whenever I have a good day head wise I can never shake the thought of "I wonder if i'll feel down tomorrow?". I just cant seem to shake the fact that I'm going through a bad patch just now and that it might all get better. The fear that i'll get worse and worse is now ingrained in my head. And I feel like I have the "stigma" of depression hanging over me. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Snelders Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 Whenever I have a good day head wise I can never shake the thought of "I wonder if i'll feel down tomorrow?". I just cant seem to shake the fact that I'm going through a bad patch just now and that it might all get better. The fear that i'll get worse and worse is now ingrained in my head. And I feel like I have the "stigma" of depression hanging over me. Have you seen anyone about this? I cannot prescribe what might help, but CBT might be useful. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 Have you seen anyone about this? I cannot prescribe what might help, but CBT might be useful. CBT? You sure about that? Cock & Ball Torture? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Wilson Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 CBT? You sure about that? Cock & Ball Torture? Aye, it takes your mind of it for a wee while. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjc Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 Aye, it takes your mind of it for a wee while. Fcuking right it does......especially when dished out by a Dominatrix! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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