ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 3 minutes ago, Bobby Skidmarks said: My children aren't teenagers, can you share your solution should I find myself in this situation in the future? All kids are different, what works for one will be a disaster for another. I sat my son down and had a serious conversation about what he'd done and why he stole the money, then I gave him the tenner as he obviously needed it, it worked as he has always asked for cash if he needed it, my wife wasn't happy about it but it worked with him. If I'd done the same with my other son we'd be in the poor house by now. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 12 minutes ago, whiskychimp said: I genuinely want an answer to this. Ive been told in no uncertain terms a tap on the arse is and was always within the law. The old rules say your not allowed to hit a child enough to leave a mark. I've been told that hitting is allowed but only up to assault. Where is this arbitrary line between a tap and an assault? Is it subjective? Is this whole charade a pile of shite with no concrete rules? Why don't you go away and research it if you're genuinely confused. If you want a shorthand version just don't hit your kids. If your bizarre tapping thing isn't hitting then you're fine. If it is then stop. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 (edited) 8 minutes ago, ayrmad said: All kids are different, what works for one will be a disaster for another. I sat my son down and had a serious conversation about what he'd done and why he stole the money, then I gave him the tenner as he obviously needed it, it worked as he has always asked for cash if he needed it, my wife wasn't happy about it but it worked with him. If I'd done the same with my other son we'd be in the poor house by now. You gave your son a tenner after you caught him stealing? No wonder you're struggling. Edited October 21, 2017 by Pull My Strings 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Pull My Strings said: You gave your son a tenner after you caught him stealing. No wonder you're struggling. Where did you get the impression that I was struggling? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 10 minutes ago, throbber said: I remember about 10 + years ago there was constantly stuff on the news about a smacking ban in Scotland, did it just get decided that smacking was fine back then? The law was tightened and clarified and is now being tightened further. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 1 minute ago, Pull My Strings said: The law was tightened and clarified and is now being tightened further. Is that stronger than "tapping" but weaker than "smacking"? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, ayrmad said: Where did you get the impression that I was struggling? Just the vibe I'm getting from your posts. Those advocating hitting their kids are suggesting that there are sometimes no other options. I can see why that might be your conclusion if your other attempts include rewarding your children for stealing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Jacksgranda said: Is that stronger than "tapping" but weaker than "smacking"? If you waft your hand about it's ok. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Jacksgranda said: Is that stronger than "tapping" but weaker than "smacking"? It's more of a throttling action. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Pull My Strings said: Just the vibe I'm getting from your posts. Those advocating hitting their kids are suggesting that there are sometimes no other options. I can see why that might be your conclusion if your other attempts include rewarding your children for stealing. My kids are all over 24. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, ayrmad said: If you waft your hand about it's ok. I often have to do that after one of them farts. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Pull My Strings said: It's more of a throttling action. I think throttling's not allowed. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Jacksgranda said: I often have to do that after one of them farts. Better out than in. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, ayrmad said: My kids are all over 24. Too big to get away with hitting them now? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 1 minute ago, ayrmad said: Better out than in. That's what I usually do - put them out (of the room). 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 2 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said: I think throttling's not allowed. It's a gentle throttle. Three fingers only, no pressure. More of a sustained cuddle. Round the neck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Pull My Strings said: Too big to get away with hitting them now? I didn't hit them in the 1st place, we'll see how you do if any go off the rails. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayrmad Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 1 minute ago, Jacksgranda said: That's what I usually do - put them out (of the room). A minute a year? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
invergowrie arab Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 26 minutes ago, whiskychimp said: I genuinely want an answer to this. Ive been told in no uncertain terms a tap on the arse is and was always within the law. The old rules say your not allowed to hit a child enough to leave a mark. I've been told that hitting is allowed but only up to assault. Where is this arbitrary line between a tap and an assault? Is it subjective? Is this whole charade a pile of shite with no concrete rules? Welcome to the common law system. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Pull My Strings said: It's a gentle throttle. Three fingers only, no pressure. More of a sustained cuddle. Round the neck. If you're not using your thumb, it's not a throttle. Or else you're throttling a very small child. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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