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    Infuriating Things Your Partner Does

    in The General Nonsense Forum

    Posted · Edited by Raithie

    We're doing this hybrid model of working (one day in the office and remainder of the week at home). Yesterday was my day in the office. Wife needed the car for during the day so dropped me off at work. As she dropped me off I asked her to come back and get me about 14:45. No problem she says. 14:45 and I'm standing outside sweating my ring off, no sign of her. Gives her a phone, "where the fook are you?"....."oh christ is that the time? I'll leave just now". I'd hazard a guess it's about 5 minutes in the car from our front door to my work. 30 minutes later she turns up, no explanation given for her lateness other than she lost track of time. She was already in a huff due to the heat so thought best not probe why it took her 30 minutes to drive what is essentially a 5 minute journey. She asked if we could go and get ice cream, I'm still on the clock for work but can come and go as I please from the office and finish up my last two hours at home if I wish. Telt her I could do with getting home, she mumped and moaned. Son was in the car so was all set on getting some ice cream so I relented. 23 mile round trip to get the ice cream she wanted due to my wife being dairy intolerant. Went from my work to one place (who had no dairy free ice cream) then from this place to another place which thankfully did have dairy free ice cream and to top it off the ice cream was tasteless crap. Ended up using all my data to sign into my hotspot to keep track on work and ended up getting car sick looking at my laptop on the journey. Wish I had just done my full shift in the office. 

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    Autism

    in The General Nonsense Forum

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    1 hour ago, BFTD said:

    Oh God, I forgot about the excited hand flapping! There was a while when he would wiggle his elbows like he doing the funky chicken. He liked to line up his toy cars when he was wee too; got him an electric race track to send them spinning round, but he was never interested. Just liked to park them in rows, like he was tidying up. Hadn't thought about that in years.

    He has hypermobility in his joints too; I'd no idea that was associated with ASD. We're going through an "I don't need to bathe" phase right now, which I somehow already knew might come at some point, but I'm sure plenty of parents of teenagers would recognise that.

    This thread's really interesting. I've never had the opportunity to talk to parents of ASD kids; I feel like I'd have done a much better job with other people to discuss these things with. I'd certainly have twigged sooner about the reasoning behind certain behaviours.

    Oh wow, you've literally described same kid to mines 😅 Ours still does the funky chicken dance (if a song comes on and we ask him to dance - it's the chicken dance he'll do) and like yours the "I don't need a bath/shower" has been the case for a while. we moved house a couple of years ago. Our previous house had a bath with overhead shower whereas our new house only has a shower. Used to have no issues getting him in the bath as for the most part he could have a play at the same time. He was always a bit iffy having just a shower but the sensation/sensory feeling of a shower can be difficult for Autistic kids. He's getting used to it and we're now trying to get him to shower/dry himself. A mission and a half but generally he can't be arsed with it, he finds it a chore but he's getting there. Trying to promote his independence as he's getting to that age so giving him the opportunity to pick his own clothes and do things for himself (probably something we should have encouraged earlier rather than doing everything for him). Even wee things like his pals coming to the door, we're telling him to go and answer it and get used to these conversations. If we go to a shop and there's something he's after but not there (in most cases it's Match Attax football cards) we're telling him to go and ask a staff member for some help with us hanging back. We wrapped him up in cotton wool for so long it's time we let him off the leash a wee bit and experience certain social situations. Again it's probably sensory but even a minor bump or fall can be the end of the world for him and god forbid he grazes he knee. Had umpteen calls from the school saying he's on deaths door after tripping up in the playground and once he's home it's like there's heehaw wrong with him.

    2 hours ago, EvilScotsman said:

    without wishing to hijack the thread, I'd be interested to know from others at what age they sat their kids down to discuss the diagnosis, and how they went about it?

    We were swithering about whether to tell our son or not seeing as he was shown a lot of improvements as the years went on. The school also respected our wishes not to mention it to him and he's never queried why he was getting some additional support in class or even questioned any of his emotions/feelings in his day to day life (we can however tell when something is on his mind and if asked he will open up). I think we were worried he would feel he has a label which we didn't want. However we've only just, a few months ago, spoke to our son about it. He's obsessed with Strongman and the Worlds Strongest Man is a boy called Tom Stoltman from Scotland and he is Autistic. He's very open about it and a big advocate about not letting being Autistic hold you back in life. Understandably we've taken a shine to Tom as well and we're going to meet him at one of the Strongman shows at the Hydro in October - needless to say my son, and us, are buzzing. Funnily enough it was our son who brought up the topic having watched countless YouTube videos on Tom and him speaking about Autism and what it meant. Our son himself had said they shared some similarities. Gently approached the subject for a bit, probably tripping on eggshells at times in terms of how we put it across, and this was his reaction:

    Son: "So I'm Autistic? oh well.....anyway, what's for tea?"

    He's never mentioned it again or shown any sign of this playing on his mind. The good thing is, as his parents, we have such a close bond with him that he'll generally tell us anything and won't keep things hidden. If this was playing on his mind we'd know but he seems absolutely fine.

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    Autism

    in The General Nonsense Forum

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    My son, who is 10, was diagnosed as Autistic when he was 4 however the peadiatrician was very quick to keep mentioning the fact he was high functioning. As if that made the diagnosis better. The diagnosis didn't come as a shock and we had some suspicions, even at an early age, primarily with hand flapping and would forever line up his toys and not exactly 'play' with them conventionally. He had really bad echolalia in his early years and was obsessed with routine.

    I must admit I found the whole process incredibly straight forward - referred to a peadiatrician (some assessments done), referred on to Education Psychology, OT, Health Visitor, keyworker at nursery then a round the table discussion with all in agreement of an Autism diagnosis. My wife's friend, who's son appeared to be at the lower end of the spectrum in terms of extreme behaviours, structures/routines, meltdowns etc had same assessment process as us however one professional disagreed with Autism diagnosis so he then had to go through some fast tracked assessment quite some time down the line. He ended up getting an Autism diagnosis in the end. I must admit one of the reliefs of the assessments being concluded and a decision made was we could now just enjoy him for who he is and not have to constantly assess and analyse what he was doing to feed back to all these professionals. 

    In the early days it was a bit tricky - if he knew we were going to the park then that's all he would have in his head, that was the routine. If we got in the car and realised we needed petrol he would have a bit of a moment to himself as the routine was now all to pot as we were now going somewhere else before the park. My wife did an open Uni course on the subject of Autism and we've both spent countless hours researching the condition and educating ourselves on the various tips and tricks to help kids with Autism cope in life. Certain situations would make him anxious i.e. I took him to the football and it was too noisy for him so we had to leave after 10 minutes, tried again a season or two later with no joy. The lead up to going back to school after the holidays - what will my teacher be like? Where do I line up? What's the plan? what am I doing? I need to know!?, going places - right where we going? how long will be? are we going to any other places?. He also had some big sensory issues and was also advised he had hypermobility (apparently common in Autistic kids). Because of that he's never been as overly mobile as his peers and could appear quite stiff in his movements. 

    However today, as a 10 year old, it's almost night and day from his earlier years. He attends a mainstream school, has minimal input from the Pupil Support Assistant, is academically at the level he should be for his age and routines can be chopped and changed with not much in the way of any issues. I think getting his diagnosis at such an early age has been a blessing as the school have then managed to put all relevant supports in place. The school he goes to is fantastic and really on the ball. He's made many friends and we can let him out and about on his own with kids in the street if he wants to. He'll sleep throughout the night (that's never been a problem) and whilst he will try a range of foods (if we push him) he would quite happily eat the same foods everyday if he could. Socially though there are some minor issues, I hear how other kids in his class converse with one another and can see a marked difference to how he would respond/communicate. He still has some ticks that he can't control such as extreme hand flapping when excited, facial grimmacing and spinning in a circle with his head tilted to the side.....but for whateve reason he appears to only do this at home. He doesn't do it at school or in public. It's almost as if he knows his house is his safe space to let out some of his bouts of energy with no judgement. We've had some family round from time to time make comments that it must be hard work bringing up an Autistic child but nothing could be farther from the truth (for us anyway). He's a piece of cake to parent and I put that down to the research and education we've done. It's now something ingrained in us when it comes to our parenting, we know the trigger signs if he's getting stressed/anxious and can put into place measures that help him. A simple "right son, you've got 5 minutes until we have to leave/go to bed/get yourself ready". He is a bit of a lazy sod at times, it's a mission to get him to shower himself or get himself ready so trying to teach him the importance of personal care and independence is something we're working on just now.

    ....and he's now a season ticket holder at the Rovers which is an incredibly proud father moment to see him sitting next to me, singing away and enjoying being at the football.

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    The New Raith Rovers Thread

    in Scottish Championship General Chatter

    Posted

    4 hours ago, Raith_Rasta said:

    This a legit strip from a cooncil retro shirt firm .  Would look minted if Joma went to town on it, like the East Fife kit.

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    The actual tartan 3rd kit is up on ebay for something ridiculous like £165. I mind getting this the day it came out when I was like 10 or 11. Got so much shit from pals saying it was Rangers tartan and that Rangers were going to sue us. Wore it to a game against Celtic and had umpteen Celtic fans stop me, a child, asking if it was Rangers tartan in a very 'I'm not happy if it is' accent 😆

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    The New Raith Rovers Thread

    in Scottish Championship General Chatter

    Posted

    59 minutes ago, raith1974 said:

    Interesting read in the FFP. Murray hoping to bring in 1 or 2 more players but if he doesn't he will go with what he has until he gets injured players back. He's kidding himself on if he thinks this defence will keep us up. A CB is needed and a striker. 

    He also reckons we had 300 to 350 away fans at Cove 🤨

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    The New Raith Rovers Thread

    in Scottish Championship General Chatter

    Posted

    18 minutes ago, JBJ said:

    Just spoke with a pal who knows the family….. still being paid 1.5k a week with no sign of resolution. That’s madness surely?

    Madness going through with the signing in the first place after fans made their feelings clear it was a bad idea a good two months or so when rumours started floating about. 

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    The New Raith Rovers Thread

    in Scottish Championship General Chatter

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    2 minutes ago, JBJ said:

    Is David Goodwillie still on the payroll? Surely that's been put to bed by now, can't believe he'd still be receiving £1,500 a week for doing nothing.

    Haven't seen anything anywhere to suggest he's been released.

     

    Your guess is as good as ours, club haven't announced/spoken about it since Sim's meltdown interview.

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