Work colleagues

[Sergeant Wilson]

1 minute ago, Baptiste Bourgeois said:

Can I ask the forums opinion on what is the upper limit for an acceptable time to be absent from work due to a parent dying?

Special leave is a week. Self cert for another week, then it needs to be certificated.sick leave.

Although, your question is impossible to answer in real life.

[Mark Connolly]

3 hours ago, Empty It said:

3 hours ago, Rasputin said:

At my old work, when someone was leaving we’d go to the pub and everyone would choose a spirit to put in a pint glass. Everyone would choose the strongest, most minging drinks and the lucky person would have to down their pint of 15 or so shots. They usually got quite a nice present too. 

There would always be one c**t who chooses Kahlua or Tia Maria.

Baileys and a shot of lime cordial to make it curdle and end up as chunks that needed to be chewed.

[Derry Alli]

14 minutes ago, Baptiste Bourgeois said:

Can I ask the forums opinion on what is the upper limit for an acceptable time to be absent from work due to a parent dying?

Guy in my work took a month. He had lost his dad to a long illness the year before and was off a week. His mum died suddenly - he was about 26 and a single father. 

He come back to work to a letter and it was suddenly sign posted all over the factory of your bereavement rights. 

"Mother or Father (inclusive of adoptive) 3 days leave". 

[Bairnardo]

The correct response for that sort of thing is to go immediately to your doctor and get a line. Had to put up with some shit the first time it happened to me. No such mistake was made the second time. 

[Mark Connolly]

7 minutes ago, Mr. Alli said:

Guy in my work took a month. He had lost his dad to a long illness the year before and was off a week. His mum died suddenly - he was about 26 and a single father. 

He come back to work to a letter and it was suddenly sign posted all over the factory of your bereavement rights. 

"Mother or Father (inclusive of adoptive) 3 days leave". 

Absolute arsehole behaviour on the part of the company there.

[Derry Alli]

Just now, Mark Connolly said:

Absolute arsehole behaviour on the part of the company there.

Yup. Only recently had a guy have an accident at work and be told he had to come back in as he was on light duties. Two weeks later he went back to another hospital appointment and they gave him a three week line, he needs to be off incase another accident happens. 

Hands it in to his line manager who then gets the owner and MD phoning the employee telling him to phone his doctor and tell him he wants to go back to work - which he does because he's scared for his job. 

Owner is then in the paper a week later saying how he has saved X amount of jobs and "we are tight nit. All care for one another and are a big family" 

Why was he in the paper? Somebody had retired.

There was no need for the owner to be in the interview - or the two hour tour of the factory with accompanying pictures. 

[Moomintroll]

21 minutes ago, Mark Connolly said:

Baileys and a shot of lime cordial to make it curdle and end up as chunks that needed to be chewed.

Ate/drank a bowl of cement mixer once at a party, the next day was not fun.

[Busta Nut]

43 minutes ago, Baptiste Bourgeois said:

Can I ask the forums opinion on what is the upper limit for an acceptable time to be absent from work due to a parent dying?

Impossible to say really. 
Ma da has terminal cancer (he's "ok" just now)and my work are generally ok but you can bet yer arse I will be getting a line. 

[Bairnardo]

1 minute ago, Busta Nut said:

Impossible to say really. 
Ma da has terminal cancer (he's "ok" just now)and my work are generally ok but you can bet yer arse I will be getting a line. 

Absolutely. Do not rely on a HR dept doing right by you, because the stress that it will cause you is precisely what you dont need. I went through it when my mum died, and they also quibbled over a day when my kid was born. When my dad died I went to the doctors immediately and told them to sign me off which they obviously did no bother. No c**t telling my how long to grieve for. 

[Guest bernardblack]

1 hour ago, Hillonearth said:

The over-cheerful punter that phones you from down south:

"And how's the weather in sunny Glasgow...?"

"Pishing. Next?"

It's not as bad as lift banter though...those insecure souls who can't travel three floors in silence:

"Oh, well...it's nearly Friday..."

At 10.30 on Tuesday morning.

 

[NotThePars]

 

I need to go back and watch more of 30 Rock. That show starts pretty strong and I’ve heard it stays consistently good.

[CountyFan]

On the topic of collections, I'm leaving next week and for the past week there have been people coming into my office (which is shared) clearly to drop into a collection for me with my colleague. Awkward as f**k. How many times can you say "you REALLY dont need to" before they get the hint? 

On parental bereavement, it depends on lots of things. My mum died suddenly in 2017, she was only 57. A proper dirty shock. I took 2 weeks, couldn't stand it any more then went back to work. 2 weeks after that my gran died and I was away to come back to work before my boss sat me down and recommended I took some proper time off. They'd obviously clocked I was struggling more than I had. They were really great about it all. Had about a month off altogether and it was really needed. 

[parsforlife]

6 hours ago, Busta Nut said:

The pubs seem to refuse to do that now. Last time I mind the guy saying "I will give you the shots and an empty pint glass, it's on you"

 

I believe( tho this is based on a what a barman told whilst I was pissed 10+ years ago) that they can't sell you anything mixed drinks and/or anything over a double without having a cocktail license. 

[Slacker]

On 11/05/2021 at 14:45, bernardblack said:

I love reading the messages in the cards though...”can’t believe you’re going, won’t be the same without you...we’ll definitely stay in touch” etc etc...usually a lot of nonsense 

The message I enjoyed most from my last leaving card was from a guy I'd never really interacted with. In amongst all the "good luck in your new job" and "we'll miss you" messages was a nice simple: "fuck off".

Edited May 12, 2021 by Slacker

[V.Aye.R]

Absolutely. Do not rely on a HR dept doing right by you, because the stress that it will cause you is precisely what you dont need. I went through it when my mum died, and they also quibbled over a day when my kid was born. When my dad died I went to the doctors immediately and told them to sign me off which they obviously did no bother. No c**t telling my how long to grieve for. 

100%

I learned very early on in my career that HR people are shafting b*****d company men/women.

Applying the bradford factor to some poor guy with Cancer summed them up for me.

Always have the faux warm friendly "my doors always open" pish.

Milk monitors. Each and every one of them.

[101]

10 hours ago, Baptiste Bourgeois said:

Can I ask the forums opinion on what is the upper limit for an acceptable time to be absent from work due to a parent dying?

I know someone that took about 6 months but it was in horrific circumstances I don't even think they needed a sick line their boss and HR were very decent about it after 5 weeks I think they had a "back to work interview" which was clear they needed a long time off to deal with it.

Beyond 6 months is probably pushing it imo.

[Carl Cort's Hamstring]

16 hours ago, Bairnardo said:

Absolutely. Do not rely on a HR dept doing right by you, because the stress that it will cause you is precisely what you dont need. I went through it when my mum died, and they also quibbled over a day when my kid was born. When my dad died I went to the doctors immediately and told them to sign me off which they obviously did no bother. No c**t telling my how long to grieve for. 

My Mum died of cancer during my final year of uni. 

I got a phone call from my Dad that her condition had suddenly got much worse so could I come home. There was an essay deadline coming up the following week so I went to see the course supervisor to explain the situation and ask if I could have an extension.

His response: "You already knew she was ill when the work was set, you should have been more organised."

 

 

[Guest]

My Mum died of cancer during my final year of uni. 
I got a phone call from my Dad that her condition had suddenly got much worse so could I come home. There was an essay deadline coming up the following week so I went to see the course supervisor to explain the situation and ask if I could have an extension.
His response: "You already knew she was ill when the work was set, you should have been more organised."
 
 

You should've beat him to death with his own shoes for a comment like that.

[Bairnardo]

1 hour ago, Carl Cort's Hamstring said:

My Mum died of cancer during my final year of uni. 

I got a phone call from my Dad that her condition had suddenly got much worse so could I come home. There was an essay deadline coming up the following week so I went to see the course supervisor to explain the situation and ask if I could have an extension.

His response: "You already knew she was ill when the work was set, you should have been more organised."

 

 

I had a similar level of argument with a holiday insurance mob as I cancelled one as the time neared. They were horrible fuckers. I absolutely tore through one of them on the phone then in the end got my money, along with a seriously snidey "we are right and you are wrong, but as a gesture of goodwill, we are paying you out" type email. I was fucking fumning but opted to leave it there as I had my coin. 

[GordonD]

The Queen got about three weeks before Boris forced her back.