Pregnancy And Parenting

[Jacksgranda]

16 hours ago, heedthebaa said:

Other way round here, I’m the worrier here, my daughter in law and wife just get wired in to every situation that arises. Probably why in the early years a lot was kept from me. I’m sure it’ll work out bud

Sometimes I would tell my wife something fairly inconsequential just to give her something to worry about and take her mind off something that was perhaps more important for her to worry about, if that makes sense!  

[Jacksgranda]

Updated for Crawford Bridge

Name	Children
Stewarty Mac	1
Pollymac	1
Skyline Drifter	2
Napolean Dynamite	1
Half A Person	1
The Chief (Hamilton Aca)	1
Ebanda's Handyman	1
Reading Saintee	2
Haitch	1
Reina	2
nelsjfc	2
MB	1
G_Man1985	2
Ceske	1
f_c_dundee	1
seamus	1
Waspie	2
Cargen Qos	1
Hey! Ho! Jambo!	1
LOL @ Celtic	1
lichtie23	3
endieinreekie	1
BigBadSaint	1
Suspect Device	1
Thundermonkey	1
gypoarmy	1
savagecabbage	1
bairnPunter	1
walter fitz gilbert	1
Whistle Blower	1
chico	1
Mozza Mozza	1
Gnash	2
die hard doonhamer	3
rajpelt	1
RH33	2
Mallo_Madrid	2
Shuggie_Murray7	3
bobby carlos	2
paisley saints	1
Adam & Lisa Cuddy	1
greenockraver	1
gingapar	1
diamonds2002	2
Adolfo Rios	1
Swarley	2
Tynierose	1
Polomoney	1
one m in Motherwell	1
kanadia	1
Uncle Physchosis	1
ditots	1
Addie	2
CooCoothenoo	1
baillieinleeds	1
groaninjock	1
Mr.Blue	1
Gaz	3
Fife saint	1
madwullie	2
11thHour	1
MB	1
Raithie	1
Stagmaster	1
pandarilla	2
Nkomo-A-Gogo	2
CLANCY2KTID	1
1888bhoy67	3
Jamie_Beatson	2
el buitre	2
RaithRyan	1
The Wolf	1
Greenlantern	1
deadasdillinger	1
energyzone	2
mozam76	1
scottsdad	1
KiwiDB	2
Steven Seagal*	1
lightscamera	2
carpetmonster	1
Le Tout P'ti FC	1
Bobby Skidmarks	2
Gaz	2
Heed	1
We Are Elgin	2
Nelly'78	1
stimpy	1
weirdcal	2
Scary Bear	3
milton75	1
Dee Dee	2
sparky88	1
Desp	1
8MileBU	1
The Ginger Prince	2
gav-ffc	1
pub car king	2
KnightswoodBear	3
DarkBlue62	2
RoversMad	1
HMFC Mitchy	1
Deefiant	3
11thHour	2
Ando	3
Penny Lane	1
Bambino7	2
K.T.	1
SlipperyP	3
banana	2
Sweet Pete	2
Anonymous Spider	1
Glen Medieros	1
Bear in Sweden	2
the snudge	1
Septentrional Wasp	2
Scotty79	1
jmothecat	2
mattydfc93	1
streetwisehercules	1
ally	2
Adamski	2
LoonsYouthTeam	1
sjc	1
Honest Saints Fan &Rugster	2
Bairnardo	2
Saigon Raider	2
steelmen	1
Ayrshire-SFC	1
Dicko23	1
StandFree03	1
spacekid84	1
19QOS19	2
Tartantony	2
mcintyre_gmfc	2
Wren Road	1
gkneill	1
The Woolshed	2
BigBo10	2
Tommy Nooka	1
placidcasual	1
dave.j	2
Toma_BullyWee	1
++Ammo - Airdrie++	1
Dindeleux	1
forameus	1
Jimmy85	1
Stuarty	1
fanny paddery	1
paisleysaints	1
wellboy1991	1
The Equalizer	1
stumigo	1
EH75	1
PB1994	1
PB 4.2	1
pleslie99	1
dysartrovers	3
grumswall	1
ShaggysBeard	2
ICTChris	1
throbber	1
Disco30	1
Inanimate Carbon Rod	1
Wardy	1
Neiljb	1
K.T.	1
Ingo ohne Flamingo	1
MOrtonfc	1
Aufc	2
MP_MFC	1
Northsea80	1
.Stuart.	2
FalkirkBairn93	1
KillieCon	1
Illgresi	1
Busta Nut	1
Ross.	1
tree house tam	1
MixuFruit	1
Salvo Montalbano	1
Crawford Bridge	1
Total	254

[Crawford Bridge]

Hello to all. I hope your little ones are well.

[Crawford Bridge]

Hello to all. I hope your little ones are well.

[Jacksgranda]

On 30/06/2020 at 13:45, Jacksgranda said:

He's getting admitted tomorrow and being put on a drip (probably). Jacksgranny is convinced social services will take him away and put him into care, blaming his mother for not feeding him properly. I can't see it myself, although they will no doubt get involved. There is a mountain of evidence that she has been seeking help for this problem for years, it's not as if she's witholding food from him, her other two eat everything that's put in front of them, I think it has something to do with his autism.

"Have you tried beans on toast?" "Have you tried scrambled eggs on toast?" "No, I never thought of that!" F*** me, what do you think? 

He's been a poor eater for years but it seems to have accelerated, maybe lockdown has knocked him completely off his way of going.

 

I really shouldn't listen to my wife 

He got a cat scan, goes back tomorrow for the results and gets another scan. He's away home to his big brother's birthday party, not that it'll be much of a party, just the three of them + mum & dad.

He's being referred to a dietician, although what the f*** good that will do I don't know. His mother knows how to prepare balanced, healthy meals, he won't eat them. He's to get no more rubbish apparently, so that means he'll be eating nothing.

"He'll eat when he's hungry" hasn't worked up to now, so I've no reason to think it will in the future.

 

[heedthebaa]

42 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said:

I really shouldn't listen to my wife 

He got a cat scan, goes back tomorrow for the results and gets another scan. He's away home to his big brother's birthday party, not that it'll be much of a party, just the three of them + mum & dad.

He's being referred to a dietician, although what the f*** good that will do I don't know. His mother knows how to prepare balanced, healthy meals, he won't eat them. He's to get no more rubbish apparently, so that means he'll be eating nothing.

"He'll eat when he's hungry" hasn't worked up to now, so I've no reason to think it will in the future.

 

At least it’s a start to putting him right, but it can be hard to get them to eat healthy etc. We have a tendency to give the grandkids what they want to eat on a Friday, no our job to upset them by putting meals they don’t want to eat, usually 6 different meals . 

[Jacksgranda]

21 minutes ago, heedthebaa said:

At least it’s a start to putting him right, but it can be hard to get them to eat healthy etc. We have a tendency to give the grandkids what they want to eat on a Friday, no our job to upset them by putting meals they don’t want to eat, usually 6 different meals . 

It's hard getting him to eat - Goodfellas thin base pepperoni pizza (no other type pizza and no other brand), popcorn chicken from KFC, chicken goujons, purple monster munch, toast and butter (Move Over Butter only, any other brand he refuses to eat), cocktail sausages and oranges.

Now, that doesn't look too bad, but lately he'll take one bite of pizza and refuse to eat any more, maybe half of a tub of popcorn chicken, he'll take one chicken goujon then stop, he won't eat cocktail sausages now and he'll maybe take a couple or three orange segments. He'll eat purple monster munch but that's about it.

He'll sniff his pizza and tell you it's not his pizza (goodfellas, he can tell by his sense of smell) he'll sniff his toast and bread and tell you it's not his bread (we don't always have his usual loaf) or not his butter (again he can tell by his sense of smell).

A dietician is not the answer - dieticians have been involved before - they need to get to the bottom of why he's not eating (I think his autism has a lot to do with it) and how to get him to eat.

[sjc]

My daughter's struggling with toilet training. It's a real, 1 step forward, 2 steps back situation a lot of the time as she sometimes recognises that she needs to go but then next time seems completely oblivious. She's started to get self conscious about it as I suspect some of the other kids at her kindergarten are perhaps teasing her about it. Although, I do wonder if complacency or laziness is part of the issue as she's always on the go, doing and learning new things that going to the toilet might seem boring and "old hat" in comparison.

We have wondered whether her treatment may have dulled her sensation for "needing to go", which would make sense but it's impossible to say for sure. 

Any advice? 

[Bairnardo]

My daughter's struggling with toilet training. It's a real, 1 step forward, 2 steps back situation a lot of the time as she sometimes recognises that she needs to go but then next time seems completely oblivious. She's started to get self conscious about it as I suspect some of the other kids at her kindergarten are perhaps teasing her about it. Although, I do wonder if complacency or laziness is part of the issue as she's always on the go, doing and learning new things that going to the toilet might seem boring and "old hat" in comparison.
We have wondered whether her treatment may have dulled her sensation for "needing to go", which would make sense but it's impossible to say for sure. 
Any advice? 

The laziness/distraction thing is very real and toilet training, more than most issues with kids (although this is common for various issues IMO) was one that is very "phased" and sorted itself whilst we were busy stressing over a solution. I would say dont stress about it and it will come good.

[Andy Dufresne]

1 hour ago, sjc said:

My daughter's struggling with toilet training. It's a real, 1 step forward, 2 steps back situation a lot of the time as she sometimes recognises that she needs to go but then next time seems completely oblivious. She's started to get self conscious about it as I suspect some of the other kids at her kindergarten are perhaps teasing her about it. Although, I do wonder if complacency or laziness is part of the issue as she's always on the go, doing and learning new things that going to the toilet might seem boring and "old hat" in comparison.

We have wondered whether her treatment may have dulled her sensation for "needing to go", which would make sense but it's impossible to say for sure. 

Any advice? 

Ben was really difficult when it came to toilet training but we just stuck out and it worked in the end,the main thing is don't make a big deal of it when she has an accident.

[pandarilla]

It's hard getting him to eat - Goodfellas thin base pepperoni pizza (no other type pizza and no other brand), popcorn chicken from KFC, chicken goujons, purple monster munch, toast and butter (Move Over Butter only, any other brand he refuses to eat), cocktail sausages and oranges.
Now, that doesn't look too bad, but lately he'll take one bite of pizza and refuse to eat any more, maybe half of a tub of popcorn chicken, he'll take one chicken goujon then stop, he won't eat cocktail sausages now and he'll maybe take a couple or three orange segments. He'll eat purple monster munch but that's about it.
He'll sniff his pizza and tell you it's not his pizza (goodfellas, he can tell by his sense of smell) he'll sniff his toast and bread and tell you it's not his bread (we don't always have his usual loaf) or not his butter (again he can tell by his sense of smell).
A dietician is not the answer - dieticians have been involved before - they need to get to the bottom of why he's not eating (I think his autism has a lot to do with it) and how to get him to eat.

It's a horribly difficult situation.

My view is that if you make the mistake early on of giving in to them because they won't eat what you prepare - then you're always going to struggle.

I can't understand parents who regularly make more than one meal for the family. On the odd occasion, it's fine, like any treat. But regularly? That's mental.

If you get in early the idea that this is the dinner and there's no other option then it usually works. Having a wee bit of variety for meals is obviously a good tip (wraps/sandwiches/baked potatoes with loads of options where they can choose their fillings).

I think it's quite an old school mentality i have, and fortunately for us it's worked. Our eldest has always ate well, and the youngest went through a big phase of needing coaxed, and being a bit thin - but he's come out of it in the last few months and is scoffing loads now.

I know that there are all types of psychological issues that can have a huge impact. Like you say, it could be an effect if the autism.

But it's certainly not easy.

[RH33]

I’m in the cook one meal camp too. Don’t eat it don’t ask for anything else. Occasionally I’ll need do something different for allergy kid.

Food issues with autism is very common though. 
 

We were referred to dietician when allergy kid was diagnosed and they weren’t much use. I think if you weren’t already able cook meals from scratch they might have been useful.

[pandarilla]

I’m in the cook one meal camp too. Don’t eat it don’t ask for anything else. Occasionally I’ll need do something different for allergy kid.
Food issues with autism is very common though. 
 
We were referred to dietician when allergy kid was diagnosed and they weren’t much use. I think if you weren’t already able cook meals from scratch they might have been useful.

There's a part of me that hopes the whole family call thid child 'allergy kid', and maybe their classmates and teachers too.

I often use the phrase 'the big one' and the 'the small one' but allergy kid is in a whole new level.

[sjc]

9 hours ago, Bairnardo said:

9 hours ago, sjc said:

My daughter's struggling with toilet training. It's a real, 1 step forward, 2 steps back situation a lot of the time as she sometimes recognises that she needs to go but then next time seems completely oblivious. She's started to get self conscious about it as I suspect some of the other kids at her kindergarten are perhaps teasing her about it. Although, I do wonder if complacency or laziness is part of the issue as she's always on the go, doing and learning new things that going to the toilet might seem boring and "old hat" in comparison.
We have wondered whether her treatment may have dulled her sensation for "needing to go", which would make sense but it's impossible to say for sure. 
Any advice? 

The laziness/distraction thing is very real and toilet training, more than most issues with kids (although this is common for various issues IMO) was one that is very "phased" and sorted itself whilst we were busy stressing over a solution. I would say dont stress about it and it will come good.

Yeh, I was a bit like this as a kid too with regard to schoolwork  (the early years only.....then I just lost interest completely!)

Fingers crossed she'll outgrow it when she's ready. 

8 hours ago, keithgy said:

Ben was really difficult when it came to toilet training but we just stuck out and it worked in the end,the main thing is don't make a big deal of it when she has an accident.

Yeh, we're certainly conscious of not making a big deal about it. Other kids at the kindergarten teasing her is outwith our control though and it's a wee bit heartbreaking when you see her becoming sensitive to it but she's a tough cookie that's come through far worse, so I'm confident she'll cope in the long run.

 

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. Appreciated.

[Jacksgranda]

9 hours ago, pandarilla said:

It's a horribly difficult situation.

My view is that if you make the mistake early on of giving in to them because they won't eat what you prepare - then you're always going to struggle.

I can't understand parents who regularly make more than one meal for the family. On the odd occasion, it's fine, like any treat. But regularly? That's mental.

If you get in early the idea that this is the dinner and there's no other option then it usually works. Having a wee bit of variety for meals is obviously a good tip (wraps/sandwiches/baked potatoes with loads of options where they can choose their fillings).

I think it's quite an old school mentality i have, and fortunately for us it's worked. Our eldest has always ate well, and the youngest went through a big phase of needing coaxed, and being a bit thin - but he's come out of it in the last few months and is scoffing loads now.

I know that there are all types of psychological issues that can have a huge impact. Like you say, it could be an effect if the autism.

But it's certainly not easy.

There's a lot more to it than "giving in to him". You sound like my stepdaughter's partner, tbqh

[Bairnardo]

The whole "eat what's put in front of you" is a bit silly tbh. I often adjust meals so that me and Mrs B are eating a slightly different meal to the kids but loosely based on the same. Kids cant be expected to take on adult tastes straight away and me and Mrs B cant be expected to eat kids food. Occasionally feed them then me and Mrs B eat when they go to bed but more often I choose to make dinners I think everyone will enjoy so that we can all sit together and enjoy it.

I'd rather do that than have 50% of the folk at the table choking down food they dont like on the basis of "I had to clear my plate when I were a lad". Given how much me and Mrs B enjoy food, I expect sitting round the table to be a pleasurable family thing as they get older. They wont get that notion that food is to be enjoyed if they dont get to enjoy it. All within reason of course.

[RH33]

8 hours ago, pandarilla said:

There's a part of me that hopes the whole family call thid child 'allergy kid', and maybe their classmates and teachers too.

I often use the phrase 'the big one' and the 'the small one' but allergy kid is in a whole new level.

The wee one in this house is bigger than allergy kid who’s two years older!

[heedthebaa]

5 hours ago, sjc said:

Yeh, I was a bit like this as a kid too with regard to schoolwork  (the early years only.....then I just lost interest completely!)

Fingers crossed she'll outgrow it when she's ready. 

Yeh, we're certainly conscious of not making a big deal about it. Other kids at the kindergarten teasing her is outwith our control though and it's a wee bit heartbreaking when you see her becoming sensitive to it but she's a tough cookie that's come through far worse, so I'm confident she'll cope in the long run.

 

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. Appreciated.

The two older grandkids were fine with it all, the two younger ones we had issues with. Nico who’s two, used to walk around for hours in a state rather than go, sometimes having an accident, it will solve itself through time. They were all better with the potty than the toilet

1 hour ago, Bairnardo said:

The whole "eat what's put in front of you" is a bit silly tbh. I often adjust meals so that me and Mrs B are eating a slightly different meal to the kids but loosely based on the same. Kids cant be expected to take on adult tastes straight away and me and Mrs B cant be expected to eat kids food. Occasionally feed them then me and Mrs B eat when they go to bed but more often I choose to make dinners I think everyone will enjoy so that we can all sit together and enjoy it.

I'd rather do that than have 50% of the folk at the table choking down food they dont like on the basis of "I had to clear my plate when I were a lad". Given how much me and Mrs B enjoy food, I expect sitting round the table to be a pleasurable family thing as they get older. They wont get that notion that food is to be enjoyed if they dont get to enjoy it. All within reason of course.

Exactly, I’d rather sit round a table, where we all enjoy the food, than have to constantly nip or bribe one of them into eating it

[Ross.]

Missus was back at the doctors this morning with the wee man. The stuff we were using has helped a wee bit but still a lot of dry skin on his legs and arms, and a bit starting to spread on his back. Given her cortisone to use for the next few days and then to go back to the other stuff again.

[Honest Saints Fan]

2 hours ago, Bairnardo said:

Given how much me and Mrs B enjoy food, I expect sitting round the table to be a pleasurable family thing as they get older. They wont get that notion that food is to be enjoyed if they dont get to enjoy it. All within reason of course.

This is exactly it for us. We are both massive foodies and so far have been blessed with 2 children that will eat almost everything put on their plate. They are quite happy to try new, unusual foods too. I am a huge baby led weaning advocate which I think has helped so they have been eating exactly the same as us since they were 6 months old. We try as much as possible to all eat together and I'd say twice a month we'll maybe eat at a different time (don't let them have takeaway yet!).