Pregnancy And Parenting

[Dons_1988]

4 minutes ago, RH33 said:

Is this a private dietician?

Aye 

[19QOS19]

Good they told you - not every health board does. We didn't know my daughter was a girl until she was born. 

We have now found out with all three. Makes life so much easier getting ready. 
No issues in D&G with letting you know.

They told us as well (DnG) but the woman did say "It looks like a girl to me". Was it similar with yourself Mallo? I think a big issue was that they would naturally get it wrong sometimes and folk were kitting out their room in pink only for it to be a boy.

Happened to a girl in the town funnily enough. They were told it was a girl and they had a boy.

Sad state of affairs but folk will find any excuse to sue nowadays it seems.

Second youngest stepdaughter has had 4 daughters by her partner. (I said the last 3 would be girls.) I know her partner is disappointed in not having a son to pass the farm onto. (Jack isn't interested and it's just as well, as he wouldn't have got it, it might go to partner's sister's wee boy, if he's interested.)
However, if he is disappointed he hides it well, the sheer joy on his face when he came to collect the youngest one the other day was a sight to behold.
(He seemed happy enough to see the other two as well...)

I always wanted a wee lassie. My Mrs didn't want to know what our first was so she left the room and I was told by myself what the sex was. When they told me I was literally jumping up and down. I never expected such a reaction and I sometimes wonder how I would have reacted if it was a boy. I like to think I'd have been quite dignified but I get the feeling I may well have been the below. (Notice how my last sentence ties in with the last one above...)

[RH33]

16 minutes ago, Dons_1988 said:

Aye 

Just be very careful of their motivation, ££££ to be made out of a vulnerable new mum.

As wee one is five months have you thought about introducing solids? 

[Jacksgranda]

12 hours ago, PB1994 said:

Night number 6 in hospital for us after rushing the eldest child (6) to hospital last Wednesday morning. Turns out he has type 1 diabetes. I must say he has taken it like an absolute champion with the constant, well it feels like it anyway, blood sugar checks and insulin injections but there are have been a few times where the mask has slipped and you can tell he is struggling to come to terms with it and it is heartbreaking to watch.

Its obviously a hell of a lot for him to take in and we aren’t allowed to leave until the nurses are happy we can do everything comfortably so hopefully when we do get home we can settle back into a “normal” routine which will make everything a bit easier.

All the best, at least you know what's wrong.

He'll probably be telling you how to administer the checks and medication...

[Jacksgranda]

2 hours ago, Dons_1988 said:

Thanks @Busta Nut and @lichtie23 for the kind posts. 

Ive not really had the time between everything to post anything that articulate but will do at some point. 

In short, nothing really improved. Feeding remains mixed, wee one is healthy but doesn’t feel like a sustainable amount she’s having. We’ve booked to see an infant dietician tomorrow. Not sure how confident I am in that but at least a different insight. 

The wife’s mood is still in the bin and cries after every feed and more. She has at least booked to see the GP for herself in a couple of weeks time. 

Small steps, loon, keep on keeping on.

[Mallo_Madrid]

55 minutes ago, 19QOS19 said:

They told us as well (DnG) but the woman did say "It looks like a girl to me". Was it similar with yourself Mallo? I think a big issue was that they would naturally get it wrong sometimes and folk were kitting out their room in pink only for it to be a boy.

Happened to a girl in the town funnily enough. They were told it was a girl and they had a boy.

Sad state of affairs but folk will find any excuse to sue nowadays it seems.


I always wanted a wee lassie. My Mrs didn't want to know what our first was so she left the room and I was told by myself what the sex was. When they told me I was literally jumping up and down. I never expected such a reaction and I sometimes wonder how I would have reacted if it was a boy. I like to think I'd have been quite dignified but I get the feeling I may well have been the below. (Notice how my last sentence ties in with the last one above...)

 

Fairly similar yes. They didn't offer - they said any questions and the wife asked if she could find out the sex. She was fairly confident but there was the caveat that obviously she may have it wrong. It looked fairly obvious to me that it was a boy to be honest.

[Dons_1988]

7 minutes ago, RH33 said:

Just be very careful of their motivation, ££££ to be made out of a vulnerable new mum.

As wee one is five months have you thought about introducing solids? 

Yes, I’m wary of being taken for a mug definitely. I have a relative that’s a paediatrician so tbh I’d be running any advice past her and we won’t be getting on any long term plan or any other money drain!

Solids may be an option if this continues much longer, yeah. 

[Bairnardo]

12 minutes ago, Dons_1988 said:

Yes, I’m wary of being taken for a mug definitely. I have a relative that’s a paediatrician so tbh I’d be running any advice past her and we won’t be getting on any long term plan or any other money drain!

Solids may be an option if this continues much longer, yeah. 

We went at that early with BB2 tbh. She seemed ready for it. It really cant hurt and could give your wife something to focus on. Have a wee read about Baby Led Weaning. We did that with second one and it was a colossal improvement on normal weaning 

[19QOS19]

 
Fairly similar yes. They didn't offer - they said any questions and the wife asked if she could find out the sex. She was fairly confident but there was the caveat that obviously she may have it wrong. It looked fairly obvious to me that it was a boy to be honest.

That was his leg...

[Dons_1988]

46 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said:

Small steps, loon, keep on keeping on.

Aye, I’m all good. Just focused on being a support. Ready for the potential long haul on this one. 

[Mallo_Madrid]

3 minutes ago, 19QOS19 said:

That was his leg...

Third yin. Like his old da.

They dont call me the tripod for nothing.

[welshbairn]

2 minutes ago, Mallo_Madrid said:

Third yin. Like his old da.

They dont call me the tripod for nothing.

Third pinky..

[Robin.Hood]

On 22/10/2021 at 08:44, Dons_1988 said:

Don’t think that’s abnormal. 

As mentioned before I’m absolutely loving being a dad but only 5 months in I’d absolutely love a weekend free to have an away day and a few beers or whatever. 

It’s all consuming and everyone needs a break. 

Me and the wife ( sons are 12 and 10) have never had a night away. However over the years had the odd afternoon to ourselves ( we work so that nobody needs to help with childcare). Find that with having the two kids not too many opportunities to have alone time. So usually we just take having turns about to having nights out or whatever. Older they get it certainly gets easier. ( oldest diagnosed with Autism/ adhd) but you adapt to that.

Regarding foods. To this day we still at times struggle with foods. Always through life got told about what we can/ can't do and majority of that advice we put into the sea. You will know your kid and if you feel solids may be the way forward I'd say definitely go for it.

It's great being a Dad. 

 

For what it's worth I got shot down from someone on here years ago because my son couldn't tie his shoe laces. Wasnt actually until I told him of my sons diagnoses I ended up getting a pm off the person. This thread is great and certainly a place to vent. I have done over the years.

Edited October 26, 2021 by Robin.Hood

[Jacksgranda]

32 minutes ago, Dons_1988 said:

Aye, I’m all good. Just focused on being a support. Ready for the potential long haul on this one. 

In years to come you'll look back on this and laugh.

Well, have a wry smile, at least...

[RH33]

1 hour ago, Bairnardo said:

We went at that early with BB2 tbh. She seemed ready for it. It really cant hurt and could give your wife something to focus on. Have a wee read about Baby Led Weaning. We did that with second one and it was a colossal improvement on normal weaning 

I did baby lead with all three of mine and I think Honest Saint did too. 

@Dons_1988 my wee one had feeding issues from start. She had sever reflux and then lots entire top layer of skin to excema. Entire bottles would come straight back up. She screamed for hours. 

She was allergic to milk (and other food as we learned through weaning). But still out on weight. So please don't think I'm dismissing how hard it is as I had to fight and doorstep GP until they referred me on.

She's now a smart, articulate and petite ten year old who doesn't cause me any problems at all.

Edited October 26, 2021 by RH33

[Dons_1988]

5 minutes ago, RH33 said:

I did baby lead with all three of mine and I think Honest Saint did too. 

@Dons_1988 my wee one had feeding issues from start. She had sever reflux and then lots entire top layer of skin to excema. Entire bottles would come straight back up. She screamed for hours. 

She was allergic to milk (and other food as we learned through weaning). But still out on weight. So please don't think I'm dismissing how hard it is as I had to fight and doorstep GP until they referred me on.

She's now a smart, articulate and petite ten year old who doesn't cause me any problems at all.

Thanks, that sounds like a horrendous time for you. 

I like to think I’ve retained enough perspective to know that the feeding issue we’re experiencing is very likely to be nothing serious and in the grand scheme of potential issues to be had with kids is very small indeed. Doesn’t make it enjoyable but I know that we’re pretty lucky in our circumstances. 

My biggest concern is my wife to be honest she is really suffering with it (and she wasn’t much better before the feeding issues) so it’s difficult to watch. 

 

[RH33]

Watching someone you love suffer with mental health issues is sole destroying. You literally can't do anythjng to help her until she sees it herself.  

Just being there and providing support and keeping you're own perspective and MH on balance so you're healthy. 

[Honest Saints Fan]

Yes, I am a massive baby led weaning advocate. Honestly the best way to wean, great for development, great fun, can cook the same meals for everyone. 

How did your wife get on with the group class? I think hearing from other mums is one of the best things. Obviously some are yer elevenerife types but mostly they give great support and make you realise what you are experiencing is completely normal. 

[die hard doonhamer]

Another vote for baby lead weaning here as well. We did it with our youngest, and wish we had with the older 2 as well. 

[scottsdad]

About 20 years ago there was a craze to try to standardise baby feeding. You should only feed them every 4 hours, a set amount of milk. You should wean them at 6 months and not before. My brother was told to only feed his youngest cold milk. It was all bollocks. 

Simple method - if the baby is hungry, give it a bottle. Still hungry? Give it more. Bottles just not cutting the mustard? Time to move on to soup/baby food/black pudding suppers.