die hard doonhamer Posted January 12 Share Posted January 12 My youngest has been going in to nursery in tears every morning since returning after Christmas. This morning she went in, hesitantly, but without tears and a fight. I punched the air when she went through the door without having to be physically handed over to the staff, a huge feeling of relief. No doubt it’ll be back to being a fight again on Monday, but we take the small wins. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICTChris Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 Thread on some of the dodgy studies regarding maternal health. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrestersKTID Posted January 19 Share Posted January 19 My first was born in November, wee boy. Massive shock to the system but we've been lucky that he's fairly chill... most of the time, has his moments though. Ridiculous how much development he's had in the last 11/12 weeks. Every day is something new. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thistledo Posted January 19 Share Posted January 19 4 minutes ago, PrestersKTID said: My first was born in November, wee boy. Massive shock to the system but we've been lucky that he's fairly chill... most of the time, has his moments though. Ridiculous how much development he's had in the last 11/12 weeks. Every day is something new. Congrats, missus had a boy in March last year, been pee'd on so many times man, just catches you out and boom pished on, some range on it. Didn't really happen so much with our wee girl. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dons_1988 Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 Nearly a year we’ve had peace in our house now. All of our mental health has been much better and life has been happier for everyone. Then last night and this morning it’s all happened again. A traumatic reminder of the past suffering my wife and I have had. A place we thought we’d never have to go back to. My daughter asked for baby shark on the tv… 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted January 23 Share Posted January 23 On 19/01/2024 at 14:28, PrestersKTID said: My first was born in November, wee boy. Massive shock to the system but we've been lucky that he's fairly chill... most of the time, has his moments though. Ridiculous how much development he's had in the last 11/12 weeks. Every day is something new. Congratulations, trust all is still going well. PrestersKTID 1 Children 310 Total 311 (Total babies 352) 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandomGuy. Posted February 14 Share Posted February 14 Anyone got any recommendations for a tablet for a 2yo? Ideally has access to Netflix/Disney+, but obviously need to be able to set parental controls. Cheers. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandomGuy. Posted February 14 Share Posted February 14 On 29/12/2023 at 19:20, carpetmonster said: At 11 months and 4 days we’ve finally found something the boy won’t eat. Samosas, fine. Curry, no issues. Wants your eggs that you’ve already put hot sauce on? Doesn’t blink. Caramelized onions this morning were met with a swift ejection from the gob followed by a look of ‘what the f**k did you just try to feed me you c**t?!’ We're at almost 2 years and hes started dipping sliced ham in everything. Soup the other day, but managed to get an action shot of him dipping it in yoghurt the other morning. Possibly my most favourite photo ever taken. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlipperyP Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 i'm a travelled man, some say a 'lost wee boy'. The only reason I live in Thailand is for my 3 children. some say 'the only reason you're still alive' 18months ago my Father-in-law had a stroke, he was a farmer, strong 64 yo, worked his private farm every day for the local market. Devastated were the family, mother-in-law who has on going health issues (lazyitist), couldn't/wouldn't take care of him, therefore my eldest 21yo, would move into their house and help. Not much of a problem as her university is closer anyway. Last October the mother died, cancer!. This meant my wife and the children would move in with the father, to take care. It's a Thai thing, eldest daughter(wife) reasonability. My son 11yo didn't want to go, he was happy at his school (top top marks) and wanted to stay with me. Now, since then I've been a single father, we speak every evening with his mum/wife and sisters/daughter. Then weekends I get them together and stay at my house(not the wife). So, it's just me and Roy day to day, father son. Now I've not got a clue what the f**k I'm doing/speaking/helping. I'm hard but fair. He's top of his class/school for exams. Getting 100% in all 10 subjects. Became the 7th best Thai (yes Thai) speaker (story telling) in Thailand, and now been selected at U14 level for the district football team (3 years younger than all the other boys). Now I don't want thanks/greens. I just want it in print (out there). That I'm fucking shiting myself, trying my best. Love and kisses Holding hands to all the fathers out there. He broke his phone on Saturday, only found out yesterday (Wed), he getting the belt!!!! No, no. I/we will drive the 40 mile round trip to get it fixed, wee shite. Lost wee boy,- Phil(dad) 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 8 hours ago, SlipperyP said: i'm a travelled man, some say a 'lost wee boy'. The only reason I live in Thailand is for my 3 children. some say 'the only reason you're still alive' 18months ago my Father-in-law had a stroke, he was a farmer, strong 64 yo, worked his private farm every day for the local market. Devastated were the family, mother-in-law who has on going health issues (lazyitist), couldn't/wouldn't take care of him, therefore my eldest 21yo, would move into their house and help. Not much of a problem as her university is closer anyway. Last October the mother died, cancer!. This meant my wife and the children would move in with the father, to take care. It's a Thai thing, eldest daughter(wife) reasonability. My son 11yo didn't want to go, he was happy at his school (top top marks) and wanted to stay with me. Now, since then I've been a single father, we speak every evening with his mum/wife and sisters/daughter. Then weekends I get them together and stay at my house(not the wife). So, it's just me and Roy day to day, father son. Now I've not got a clue what the f**k I'm doing/speaking/helping. I'm hard but fair. He's top of his class/school for exams. Getting 100% in all 10 subjects. Became the 7th best Thai (yes Thai) speaker (story telling) in Thailand, and now been selected at U14 level for the district football team (3 years younger than all the other boys). Now I don't want thanks/greens. I just want it in print (out there). That I'm fucking shiting myself, trying my best. Love and kisses Holding hands to all the fathers out there. He broke his phone on Saturday, only found out yesterday (Wed), he getting the belt!!!! No, no. I/we will drive the 40 mile round trip to get it fixed, wee shite. Lost wee boy,- Phil(dad) You're doing allright, Phil. Keep on, keeping on. The Bairn is down for a visit as the schools/playschools are on holiday. She's not in a good mood today, she came stomping into the living room, I said "Good morning", "NOT GOOD MORNING" was the reply. She's in a wee bit better mood now. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlipperyP Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 32 minutes ago, Jacksgranda said: You're doing allright, Phil. Keep on, keeping on. The Bairn is down for a visit as the schools/playschools are on holiday. She's not in a good mood today, she came stomping into the living room, I said "Good morning", "NOT GOOD MORNING" was the reply. She's in a wee bit better mood now. i LOVE YOU 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eednud Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 (edited) On 14/02/2024 at 21:53, RandomGuy. said: We're at almost 2 years and hes started dipping sliced ham in everything. Soup the other day, but managed to get an action shot of him dipping it in yoghurt the other morning. Possibly my most favourite photo ever taken. Don’t let him go to Perth, Western Australia https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-02-13/wa-discourages-ham-being-sold-in-school-canteens/103461338 Edited February 15 by Eednud 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingjoey Posted February 19 Share Posted February 19 Fourth grandchild, third grandson, born this morning. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted February 19 Share Posted February 19 1 minute ago, kingjoey said: Fourth grandchild, third grandson, born this morning. Congratulations! Great news. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted February 19 Share Posted February 19 2 hours ago, kingjoey said: Fourth grandchild, third grandson, born this morning. Congratulations! Grandchildren - kingjoey 4 (+1) Total grandchildren 41 Total babies: 354 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
senorsoupe Posted March 27 Share Posted March 27 Four years after we started the international adoption process, we got a call today that there is a match for us in Bulgaria! I am a bit overwhelmed with emotions as we had to start again thanks to that wankstain Vladimir Putin (originally we had been approved to adopt from Ukraine). That being said, this is a whirlwind and we need to get on a plane to fly to Bulgaria in a couple of weeks to meet the child and ensure they are indeed a good match for us. So much to do 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacksgranda Posted March 28 Share Posted March 28 On 27/03/2024 at 19:50, senorsoupe said: Four years after we started the international adoption process, we got a call today that there is a match for us in Bulgaria! I am a bit overwhelmed with emotions as we had to start again thanks to that wankstain Vladimir Putin (originally we had been approved to adopt from Ukraine). That being said, this is a whirlwind and we need to get on a plane to fly to Bulgaria in a couple of weeks to meet the child and ensure they are indeed a good match for us. So much to do Great news! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
velo army Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 On 27/03/2024 at 19:50, senorsoupe said: Four years after we started the international adoption process, we got a call today that there is a match for us in Bulgaria! I am a bit overwhelmed with emotions as we had to start again thanks to that wankstain Vladimir Putin (originally we had been approved to adopt from Ukraine). That being said, this is a whirlwind and we need to get on a plane to fly to Bulgaria in a couple of weeks to meet the child and ensure they are indeed a good match for us. So much to do I'm genuinely curious as to why you're not adopting from Canada's no doubt large pool of unwanted children. It just sounds more trouble with more issues down the line. The bit in bold doesnt really sit well for me, and is more a criticism of the system than of you and senorinasoup. It seems potentially very cruel on the child if you guys decide they aren't for you. Surely any issues with said bambino/bambina would be disclosed well in advance. It just sounds like it has the potential to reaffirm to the child the message received by the initial abandonment if it is rejected a second time. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hk blues Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 1 hour ago, velo army said: I'm genuinely curious as to why you're not adopting from Canada's no doubt large pool of unwanted children. It just sounds more trouble with more issues down the line. The bit in bold doesnt really sit well for me, and is more a criticism of the system than of you and senorinasoup. It seems potentially very cruel on the child if you guys decide they aren't for you. Surely any issues with said bambino/bambina would be disclosed well in advance. It just sounds like it has the potential to reaffirm to the child the message received by the initial abandonment if it is rejected a second time. I have a Japanese student and she and her husband were in an adoption process. They were given a particularly difficult 5-year old boy and basically called it a day after a couple of visits. So, the likelihood of this kid getting a good match next time is probably even less now. No negative towards the couple or the kid but the system doesn't seem set up for success in many cases. That said, fair play to anyone stepping up to the plate. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
velo army Posted March 29 Share Posted March 29 1 hour ago, hk blues said: I have a Japanese student and she and her husband were in an adoption process. They were given a particularly difficult 5-year old boy and basically called it a day after a couple of visits. So, the likelihood of this kid getting a good match next time is probably even less now. No negative towards the couple or the kid but the system doesn't seem set up for success in many cases. That said, fair play to anyone stepping up to the plate. It's not just the system. There's a whole culture around adoption that encourages a Disneyfied Pollyana-esque view of the whole thing. It's a trauma for the kid, but it's unique among childhood trauma in that it's one for which they're expected to be grateful. When adopting people should beware of well behaved and immediately well adapted children. Their survival was threatened once through relinquishment and separation so they've internalised the message that they should be good for these new people so that they don't get abandoned again. Given what we now know about attachment theory especially in how early disruptions impact adaptive behaviour prospective adopters should welcome "difficult" children as they're exhibiting the behaviours that the "good" children repress. Anyone adopting should read "The Primal Wound" and go into this with their eyes wide open. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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