heedthebaa Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 2 minutes ago, PB 4.2 said: Genuine reply here. I recall being smacked at age 4 or 5 and thinking - 'If my parents love me why are they hitting me?' Obviously, I'm not scared or anything, but It potentially made me trust them less as a wee nipper. I just remember thinking I'd better behave 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bully Wee Villa Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Keep on trolling, you're doing well.I have never claimed anything of the sort. Maybe try writing for The Sun. If I used phrases like "namby pamby brigade" in a non-ironic way, maybe I would. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cosmic Joe Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 11 minutes ago, Bairnardo said: Who here is willing to admit both that their parents smacked them AND that they believe they had bad and abusive parents? I think you are missing the point. Abuse is not about the intent of the behaviour. It is about the impact of the behaviour... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiskychimp Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 12 minutes ago, Pull My Strings said: Oh I see, you've entirely missed the point. Here it is: smacking isn't a little bum slap or an arse tap. The point of smacking is to inflict pain and/or fear and/or humiliation otherwise how is it supposed to influence behaviour? A little 'bum slap' or 'arse tap' is completely irrelevant and anyone hiding behind that sort of terminology is kidding themself as to what they're actually doing to their kids. That's exactly what smacking is to a large number of people and the definition doesn't indicate the strength of said smack. How's about you stop making up your own definitions to suit your skewed debate. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scary Bear Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 I just remember thinking I'd better behave Did Perthshire Bell's parents hit you too! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chomp my root Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 1 minute ago, Angusfifer said: I think you are missing the point. Abuse is not about the intent of the behaviour. It is about the impact of the behaviour... and good parents will take that into consideration. The bad ones won't give a shit. Smacking I'm on about, not abuse. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PB 4.2 Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, Bairnardo said: Fair enough. Nice to see someone attempt to address and discuss the issue. Now with the benefit of hindsight, were they bad and abusive parents on the basis that they smacked you? Absolutely not. But I do think they'd have been better parents if they chose to correct my behaviour using non-violent means. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unleash The Nade Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 6 minutes ago, PB 4.2 said: Genuine reply here. I recall being smacked at age 4 or 5 and thinking - 'If my parents love me why are they hitting me?' Obviously, I'm not scared or anything, but It potentially made me trust them less as a wee nipper. Scared, probably not Scarred, definitely -1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
invergowrie arab Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Fascinating to see so many portraying hitting children as a calculated, balanced decision where all factors have been weighed up and the task gravely and sincerely carried out rather than just arseholes losing their temper. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, whiskychimp said: That's exactly what smacking is to a large number of people and the definition doesn't indicate the strength of said smack. How's about you stop making up your own definitions to suit your skewed debate. There's the fundamental disconnect. Folk who hit their kids want it to be considered a little tap on the arse, completely ignoring the fact that a little tap on the arse will do absolutely nothing to change behaviour. It's utterly dishonest. Smacking is about causing pain, fear or humiliation. If not, perhaps you can explain how you change behaviour by negative reinforcement without causing some significant negative emotions. Classic double think. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heedthebaa Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 It was the slipper in primary school , belt at middle school, cane at high school and smacked at home. Did it stop me getting into mischief nahhhhh, but it certainly slowed you down a bit 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chomp my root Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 1 minute ago, invergowrie arab said: Fascinating to see so many portraying hitting children as a calculated, balanced decision where all factors have been weighed up and the task gravely and sincerely carried out rather than just arseholes losing their temper. Going over old ground but its not always a loss of temper, sometimes it can complete exasperation or a warning of danger. If a measured skelp is what it takes to make the kid realise how much the parent is concerned/affected then it can have the desired response. There can also be the lose of temper/parent at end of tether but as long as the response is measured then if it gets the job done then it works. I've never been a fan of that myself because a new boundary has been set but as we're basically debating (snigger) the physical response then as long as that is measured then that's probably the main issue here. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chomp my root Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 5 minutes ago, Pull My Strings said: There's the fundamental disconnect. Folk who hit their kids want it to be considered a little tap on the arse, completely ignoring the fact that a little tap on the arse will do absolutely nothing to change behaviour. It's utterly dishonest. Smacking is about causing pain, fear or humiliation. If not, perhaps you can explain how you change behaviour by negative reinforcement without causing some significant negative emotions. Classic double think. Fear and humiliation are part of life and very much part of what keeps adults on the straight and narrow. Greed also plays a part and none of these emotions are pleasant. Just saying. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whiskychimp Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 1 minute ago, Pull My Strings said: There's the fundamental disconnect. Folk who hit their kids want it to be considered a little tap on the arse, completely ignoring the fact that a little tap on the arse will do absolutely nothing to change behaviour. It's utterly dishonest. Smacking is about causing pain, fear or humiliation. If not, perhaps you can explain how you change behaviour by negative reinforcement without causing some significant negative emotions. Classic double think. A tap on the arse changes my daughters behavior. It's reinforcement by shock value not pain, humiliation or fear. She understands her behaviour has gone beyond a telling off. She has never been tapped on the arse by anyone losing their temper..... ever. If we lose our temper we walk away. Always. As for negative reinforcement, should I positively reinforce every second she isn't sticking her fingers in sockets etc. That seems a weird concept. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PB 4.2 Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 1 minute ago, Unleash The Nade said: Scared, probably not Scarred, definitely Bless it's my wee rattled cyclist pauper on speed dial as per. Hopefully storm Brian knocks you off your bicycle and down a very steep embankment and into some very very jaggy nettles. -1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unleash The Nade Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, PB 4.2 said: Bless it's my wee rattled cyclist pauper on speed dial as per. Hopefully storm Brian knocks you off your bicycle and down a very steep embankment and into some very very jaggy nettles. ^^^ Scarred Reactions about as slow as your Ceed -2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobby Skidmarks Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 (edited) 8 minutes ago, Bairnardo said: Agreed. There is some utterly high and mighty shite being spouted in this thread. The proof of the pudding is a lack of people willing to call their own parents abusers on the basis of a smack. I have purposefully not said whether I agree or disagree with the new law so far on here, purely because the sensationalism thats being used in the arguements so far makes it utterly pointless. Tbf, not everyone was smacked by their parents on here, so they cannot answer the question posed. Edited October 20, 2017 by Bobby Skidmarks 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pull My Strings Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 (edited) 10 minutes ago, whiskychimp said: A tap on the arse changes my daughters behavior. It's reinforcement by shock value not pain, humiliation or fear. She understands her behaviour has gone beyond a telling off. She has never been tapped on the arse by anyone losing their temper..... ever. If we lose our temper we walk away. Always. As for negative reinforcement, should I positively reinforce every second she isn't sticking her fingers in sockets etc. That seems a weird concept. What's shocking about a tap on the arse? Reading this again, you appear to be utterly perfect, or delusional. I suspect delusional. If not then you're really in the wrong thread. This thread is about hitting kids. Edited October 20, 2017 by Pull My Strings 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bully Wee Villa Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Why are so many people so desperate to get their hands on children's bottoms? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chomp my root Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 2 minutes ago, Bully Wee Villa said: Why are so many people so desperate to get their hands on children's bottoms? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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