SweeperDee Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Depression can manifest itself in many ways, and can be brought about by the seemingly most inane things. Never make a judgement regarding it unless you know the full picture. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweaty Morph Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 While I sympathise, philpy, it probably would have been better to lead with the wife's health issues/mate going through a hard time, rather than bleating about not getting out with your mates any more. I can understand why the original post got the reaction it did. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotThePars Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 He's got absolutely no need to feel bad about what he posted. It isn't a competition and his predicament affected him enough to come on and post here looking for a bit of support. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Romeo Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Never make a judgement regarding it unless you know the full picture. Never seems to stop you. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobby Skidmarks Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Philpy, can you not get your pals to come over and stay? You can make a weekender out of it. It might refresh the batteries a bit and give your wife a bit of respite from you. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smpar Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Philpy, could it be useful to arrange something with your mates fortnightly/monthly or something? However, I know things like that are always easier said than done because of work and other priorities. A lot of students and folk who have just moved away from home that I know like to have plans with their family/mates back home as it gives you something to look forward to, rather than getting yourself down that you haven't seen them for a while. I've certainly found that it works that way for me, but obviously it won't work for everyone. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Cuddy Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Philpy, can you not get your pals to come over and stay? You can make a weekender out of it. It might refresh the batteries a bit and give your wife a bit of respite from you. Yep, get your pals through to you one month, you go through to them the next month so it's not one or the other doing all the traveling and you get to sample the delights of nights out/in in a different place. Job's a good'un. I may be oversimplifying this though. I just don't like people so I'm not sure I totally understand the problem. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Cuddy Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 I just feel more comfortable in my own company most of the time and I've been like it for as long as I remember. I'm happy to socialise but I'm much happier with a cup of tea, my couch and the telly. There's other people I'm really comfortable with, obviously but they tend to be of the same mind set as me. My best friends are people-haters too. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 I think you kinda get used to it. In my case, since Mrs. RN #3 died I've basically been on my own in the house and I've got used to it. Going to be weird when Stepdaughter No1 and her 7yo move back in later this month, but I'm looking forward to it, certainly my diet will improve! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
philpy Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 I just feel more comfortable in my own company most of the time and I've been like it for as long as I remember. I'm happy to socialise but I'm much happier with a cup of tea, my couch and the telly. There's other people I'm really comfortable with, obviously but they tend to be of the same mind set as me. My best friends are people-haters too. Fair enough, there are a lot of folk like that. With that in mind, my suggestion of a few drinks in Glasgow with my wife and I and you two still Stands, but if you're not up for it because of those reasons stated above then I understand. I've got a lot of respect for Adam and yourself, you have both achieved a lot in life, and I'll be honest, I did think Adam was a bit of a prat when I first started using P&B, but you've fairly tamed him lol 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
philpy Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Thanks for the advice everyone, one of mates became a dad recently, so I've suggested him and a few others (and me of course) have a day in Edinburgh to wet the bairns head, he seems keen on the idea, so it's a start. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinkle Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Anyone else on Mirtazipine? Dont notice any difference 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Hi twinkle. Yup doc gave it to me when I was OP for alcohol, partly to try help me sleep but also for the depression. Did nothing as far as I can tell, being off the alcohol has been far more help 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D.A.F.C Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Right, need to get this off my chest. My moods aren't the greatest just now, and I think it's due to the social aspects of my life. While I'm enjoying married life, I'm beginning to wonder if moving away from home was such a good idea, I still keep in touch with most of my old friends, but I never get the chance to have a pint in the pub with them, and when I see their photos and status updates on facebook, I always feel a bit shite that I'm not there with them, and for some reason I always end up feeling quite down about it. Don't get me wrong, I've made a good few friends over here (East lothian) but I've not got the circle of friends that I had back in fife. I don't want to pester folk into going for a few pints or try to fit into cliques, but it's starting to affect my moods, as i said. I lost contact, and to be honest interest, in my group of friends over ten years ago. They were just drinking buddies but I knew them from school. An incident happened where I lost trust in them and it took a few years for me to bring this to the surface and lose contact. After a few years I realised one day I had no real friends to speak of and have been in this mode since. Got in contact with them a couple of years back but it just didn't feel right. They're still untrustworthy. I don't really bother about it as it's just going out getting pissed. Utterly pointless. Would like to have the occasional blowout but tbh stopping drinking to get drunk is one of the best things I've ever done. I know exactly how you feel and how it can make you down or not normal sometimes. Best thing I find is to fill your day with stuff. Also pay no attention to sarge he's just having a laugh, don't let the friends thing effect your life. I did it for years, feeling sorry for myself. It's not the answer. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinkle Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Hi twinkle. Yup doc gave it to me when I was OP for alcohol, partly to try help me sleep but also for the depression. Did nothing as far as I can tell, being off the alcohol has been far more help Not had it long but i dont see any difference whatsoever. Only thing it does is make me overly tired 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
philpy Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Took a bit of a brainstorm today and went a bit OTT on facebook today. A number of family and personal issues are really starting to get me down, I ended up shutting myself in the toilet at work today and had a good cry to myself, the scary thing is I don't even know what's brought it on. I'm scared of going to see a GP, I feel like I would be a burden. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweeperDee Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) Took a bit of a brainstorm today and went a bit OTT on facebook today. A number of family and personal issues are really starting to get me down, I ended up shutting myself in the toilet at work today and had a good cry to myself, the scary thing is I don't even know what's brought it on. I'm scared of going to see a GP, I feel like I would be a burden.If you feel like something isn't quite right with your mental wellbeing, then chances are there is something wrong. Mental illness is just as important to get treated as physical illness; it's the GP's job to help you. It's also the first place you should go if you want practical help. If you fancy a chat, then feel free to drop me a PM. Edited March 9, 2015 by DonnieDarko 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuzzyAffro Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 I've been depressed since I was about 15, maybe longer. Perhaps that's always been the case, I've always had anxiety anyway. I'm in my mid 30's now. But what I would like to say to everyone, and I really have been to the bottom and exist not far from that all the time, so I get it. It used to really piss me off people who haven't been properly depressed not understanding how devastating it is and how it affects everything. But anyway what I would like to say is, I manage it okay now and am completely used to it and don't expect it to ever change, but what I would like people on here to understand is it doesn't matter. It really doesn't, nothing matters at all except one thing, and realising that made me a million times better. It's only your health. Everything else is gravy if you're healthy. Even if its shit and feels terrible its fine. If you're healthy you're so lucky you have what millions of people including millionaires would kill for and spend all day dreaming of. I don't know if that sounds as profound as it does to me but its everything. My grandad used to say if you have your health you're a millionaire. Listen to old people theey have wisdom. Your health is all that matters anything else can be fixed or lived with. He also said you can get used to anything except hanging. Which is kind of the same. I was on 40mg of citalopram for 8 years I really do get it, but take nothing now since I realised that. I hope somebody gets something from that. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotThePars Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Nah I don't have a clue, sorry. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuzzyAffro Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 It totally makes sense to me too. What about a nice cup of tea then? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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