Raidernation Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 I really don't know. I just did not expect to be "written off" today 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 I really don't know. I just did not expect to be "written off" today You've not been written off; these folks just don't like to take risks. And are most likely a bunch of wanks anyway. If hanging about the house bothers you that much, find something you're interested in and see if there's a voluntary group in that field. Sounds like it can't be worse that what you're currently doing. I'm sure the Dons could use an extra steward, if you're up for a very long commute 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cracowjambo Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 I have just returned from meeting occupational health. the doctor has not cleared me to return to work, not because I'm medically "unfit" but because of concerns over my "state of mental health" FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK! If you buggers let me work I'd be a damn sight "mentally healthier" than, well, sitting alone, all day, in an empty house, unable to sleep because I'm not tired, unable to stop thinking about all the above, just let me work, please. ETA: Doctor's comment "With all you've been through in the last few years it's surprising you've not been in care" When do you go back to see the OT? When I seen the OT last month he was ready to sign me off and I told him that it's only going to make me worse and my depression has never effected me in work. He let me go back on the condition I'm not left unsupervised. Treat the time off as a holiday and do something meaningful with the time. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 I have to go through therapy first, and all my time off is unpaid 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 I have to go through therapy first, and all my time off is unpaid You're in the States, aren't you? How are coping financially? Sorry if that's a sore topic. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 Decent example of clinical depression; I just watched my team win a particularly thrilling cup semi-final, and my son is actually excited about watching them play for the first time. Might even come with me on Saturday. Everything else is going particularly well right now. Yet I'm struggling against the urge to go back to bed and hide from the world. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Binos123sam Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 Decent example of clinical depression; I just watched my team win a particularly thrilling cup semi-final, and my son is actually excited about watching them play for the first time. Might even come with me on Saturday. Everything else is going particularly well right now. Yet I'm struggling against the urge to go back to bed and hide from the world.well done on the win 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raidernation Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 You're in the States, aren't you? How are coping financially? Sorry if that's a sore topic. I will manage somehow 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 well done on the win Thanks. You boys know how it feels to beat The Rangers 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 I will manage somehow Seriously, give the voluntary thing a try, if you can. Sounds like it would deffo help to feel needed. (can't believe I used the abbreviation 'deffo') 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Wilson Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 (edited) I have to go through therapy first, and all my time off is unpaidI don't want to offend you (this time) but you've not been fit to work since you started posting on here. You have alluded to seemingly significant health problems and psychiatric issues for obvious reasons. I sympathise, but you have never worked any where long enough over there to build up any protection or support from employers. You start one week and collapse in a heap the next. Why would they keep you on? This might sound harsh but it's based on your posts. Edited December 4, 2014 by Sergeant Wilson 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DA Baracus Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I don't want to offend you (this time) but you've not been fit to work since you started posting on here. You have alluded to seemingly significant health problems and psychiatric issues for obvious reasons. I sympathise, but you have never worked any where long enough over there to build up any protection or support from employers. You start one week and collapse in a heap the next. Why would they keep you on? This might sound harsh but it's based on your posts. Because he has a right to work and to not hire him because of his problems is discriminatory. Protection and support from an employer should begin on your first day. Also 'collapse in a heap' is a very poor phrase, and a pretty unfair and unflattering one that does across as being a bit dickish (although I don't think you meant it to be). 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DA Baracus Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Went to a counsellor today (uni lets staff use the service too). Was feeling pretty positive about it as I was hoping it would put on the right path to recovery. I wrote loads of stuff out last night and spent a good 10 minutes reading it to the counsellor. I was then told that as the uni can only offer someone a total of 6 appointments and that I'd most likely need a longer term thing that I should go to my GP. Was pretty gutting. Now I need to register with one and wait however many months it'll take for something to happen. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Wilson Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 (edited) Because he has a right to work and to not hire him because of his problems is discriminatory. Protection and support from an employer should begin on your first day. Also 'collapse in a heap' is a very poor phrase, and a pretty unfair and unflattering one that does across as being a bit dickish (although I don't think you meant it to be). He has described suffering from collapse. Like it or not, if you are employed as a temp or on a period of probation, you won't be kept on if youhave a poor sick record. You also have limited protection in the first er before full employment rights kick in. It'll probably be more stringent in America.You should also disclose any medical history. It might seem unfair, but someone else might have needed the job and was knocked back in favour of someone who wasn't fit to do it in the first place. Edited December 5, 2014 by Sergeant Wilson 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GordieBoy80 Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 (edited) Started feeling really down again. In the 7 months I have had my degree I have had the magnificent total of 1 interview after applying for shitloads of positions so starting to believe my degree isn't worth the paper it's written on. Got made to apply to Amazon by the job centre and got a temp nightshift job there. Feet are covered in blisters from the boots they supply (been to doctor's, have been given cream now). Feeling physically and mentally drained and seriously looking forward to getting paid off. Got to the stage where I am actually feigning illness so they send me home. Edited December 5, 2014 by GordieBoy80 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adam Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Started feeling really down again. In the 7 months I have had my degree I have had the magnificent total of 1 interview after applying for shitloads of positions so starting to believe my degree isn't worth the paper it's written on. Got made to apply to Amazon by the job centre and got a temp nightshift job there. Feet are covered in blisters from the boots they supply (been to doctor's, have been given cream now). Feeling physically and mentally drained and seriously looking forward to getting paid off. Got to the stage where I am actually feigning illness so they send me home. That's rough mate, I know a few folk from my year are in a similar situation, but don't lose faith, your degree is worth something. I know I had mentioned to you a while back about potential openings in my work, but as far nothing has come up. I will let you know if I hear anything. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Started feeling really down again. In the 7 months I have had my degree I have had the magnificent total of 1 interview after applying for shitloads of positions so starting to believe my degree isn't worth the paper it's written on. Got made to apply to Amazon by the job centre and got a temp nightshift job there. Feet are covered in blisters from the boots they supply (been to doctor's, have been given cream now). Feeling physically and mentally drained and seriously looking forward to getting paid off. Got to the stage where I am actually feigning illness so they send me home. Keep at it; most employers rate attendance and consistent employment over virtually everything else. It might not seem like it, but it'll make a difference when you do start getting interviews in your field. Also, get some insoles for your boots to help with the blisters. Your feet will adjust over time, as will the rest of you Presumably you're in the warehouse - keep your spirits up by regaling us with tales of WTFery 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFTD Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Went to a counsellor today (uni lets staff use the service too). Was feeling pretty positive about it as I was hoping it would put on the right path to recovery. I wrote loads of stuff out last night and spent a good 10 minutes reading it to the counsellor. I was then told that as the uni can only offer someone a total of 6 appointments and that I'd most likely need a longer term thing that I should go to my GP. Was pretty gutting. Now I need to register with one and wait however many months it'll take for something to happen. I'd imagine that depression among the student body is more common than the average. Your counsellor might have some suggestions about organisations that can help until you get to the top of the waiting list. There are some really good voluntary counselling groups out there; my wife's involved in one in the Forth Valley. Universities really ought to make signing up with a local GP part of the matriculation process. I seem to remember that Edinburgh Uni were going to do just that about a decade ago. There's a lot of students end up running around like headless chickens when they have a broken condom get sick and don't have their parents to take them to the doctor anymore. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DA Baracus Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 I'm not a student. Today was my first and last counselling appointment so I don't have a counsellor. Will have to register with a GP and take it from there. In my experience, unis do encourage students to register with a GP. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stellaboz Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 Aberdeen certainly does. Why anyone wouldn't register even as a back up is pretty pathetic and lazy. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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