What massively low bars do you aspire to?

[velo army]

10 hours ago, DA Baracus said:

I don't even make £30k a year (the £150 a month on student loans was nonsense; no idea where I got that from).

Sadly I owe circa £30k in student loans with absolutely nothing to show for it. I had to subsidise that with overdrafts that I've thankfully paid off.

In my last ever year as a student I took out my first ever payday loan. Thankfully it was my last as a student, but sadly wasn't my last ever.

Talking of university, I used to think I was a fairly bright guy (nothing special, just not bad) but my experiences make me think otherwise. 

I'm shockingly bad at study skills. I struggle massively to take in and recall information. I tried to take notes in lectures but quickly got lost and often got drowsy and fell asleep.

My attempt at revision were the 'brute force' method, meaning I read stuff over and over and tried to remember it. Didn't work.

I was so bad in exams too. Failed a year 1 chemistry exam 6 times (including when I was in year 3 of course). I think I might actually be a bit of an idiot.

See? You're wiser already .

As TxRover said, you sparked a fun and productive thread. You've created a story that you're all bad and utterly useless, which is one you created because it used to serve you, but seems to be causing you pain now. Take a wee step out of that and have a look back at the thread and look at the fun wee connections and greenie-heavy posts and allow yourself, just for a moment, to take some credit for that. 

You reached out (ken, but I like the phrase) in a drunken depressed state and it wasn't an accident mate. The drink made you throw your armour off for a bit to an extent to which you aren't accustomed and the anxiety you feel now is those lifelong protective mechanisms springing into action to prevent whatever you deeply fear will happen if people actually reach out in return.

A sure sign that you have no intention of changing, or have no intention of having anyone connect with you over this would be if you just deleted the thread. That would also be the easiest thing to do.

It is to your massive credit that you didn't do that. 

I've mentioned it before, but I'd invite you to have a look at attachment adaptations/attachment styles. I think that a lot of our recurring patterns are down to things that happen in our childhood and we then create behaviours to protect ourselves, but which then become maladaptive in adulthood. The inability to concentrate at Uni sounds like an overactive or hypervigilant limbic system, where the mind is too busy scanning for threat to focus on higher pursuits such as learning chemistry. 

I won't keep battering at that door though. I think you've learned already that a bunch of anonymous c***s on a football forum are here for you. Thanks for starting the thread.

 

[throbber]

This is a good listen if you have Spotify DA or anyone else who finds themselves discontent with every day life. 
 

[19QOS19]

11 hours ago, DA Baracus said:

I'm shockingly bad at study skills. I struggle massively to take in and recall information. I tried to take notes in lectures but quickly got lost and often got drowsy and fell asleep.

My attempt at revision were the 'brute force' method, meaning I read stuff over and over and tried to remember it. Didn't work.

I was so bad in exams too. Failed a year 1 chemistry exam 6 times (including when I was in year 3 of course). I think I might actually be a bit of an idiot.

 

You've just written something I said to my support lecturer at Uni. It led to her sending me to be checked for dyslexia which I was diagnosed with. I always thought dyslexia was letters being jumbled up but it's far more complex than that and it explained a lot for me. Like you I thought I was just a bit of an idiot at school when everyone else had finished their work and I was always the last one to finish mine. 

I don't know how you'd go about getting tested for it (perhaps through your GP?) and I don't know if a diagnosis would do you any good but it would at least make you stop beating yourself up and not thinking you're stupid (that was certainly the biggest benefit the diagnosis did me). 

[Granny Danger]

1 hour ago, 19QOS19 said:

 

You've just written something I said to my support lecturer at Uni. It led to her sending me to be checked for dyslexia which I was diagnosed with. I always thought dyslexia was letters being jumbled up but it's far more complex than that and it explained a lot for me. Like you I thought I was just a bit of an idiot at school when everyone else had finished their work and I was always the last one to finish mine. 

I don't know how you'd go about getting tested for it (perhaps through your GP?) and I don't know if a diagnosis would do you any good but it would at least make you stop beating yourself up and not thinking you're stupid (that was certainly the biggest benefit the diagnosis did me). 

Risky strategy IMO.

DA:  “Doc, is it dyslexia?”

Doc:  “No, you’re just a bit of an idiot.”

 

 

[Richey Edwards]

On 17/10/2023 at 11:17, Granny Danger said:

You must be getting tired.

Roy Orbison likes this.

[SlipperyP]

@DA Baracus yer a fucking idiot like me. 

That does mean your fucked.

Well that would be bonus..

What am saying yer not on yer own, you're a loser like 99% society.  

PM me for life changing memories.

I now live in a wooded shack, with 3 kids and a wild wife..