Derry Alli Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 (edited) Not really sure where to write this and I fully understand any backlash. I've a mates funeral tomorrow who felt as though this world wasn't for him anymore. I've never attended a funeral of someone who has taken that road - mainly because I hate how they felt they couldn't speak to me. This guy was great to me and one of the few (apart from here) who I did confide in and he listened. I feel more awful for going to this one if I never the others. What is the consensus? I'll still be at the wake - as I was the others, mostly. Edited March 14 by Derry Alli 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathematics Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Your feelings, your choice, @Derry Alli. Funerals aren’t for the departed, they’re for the mourners. If you have your own system, and it works for you, stick to it. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshbairn Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 2 minutes ago, Derry Alli said: Not really sure where to write this and I fully understand any backlash. I've a mates funeral tomorrow who felt as though this world wasn't for him anymore. I've never attended a funeral of someone who has taken that road - mainly because I hate how they felt they couldn't speak to me. This guy was great to me and one of the few (apart from here) who I did confide in and he listened. I feel more awful for going to this one if I never the others. What is the consensus? I'll still be at the wake - as I was the others, mostly. I think I'd try to treat it as if he'd died from any other illness, it's not really that much different when you think about it. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshbairn Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 3 hours ago, Derry Alli said: Not really sure where to write this and I fully understand any backlash. I've a mates funeral tomorrow who felt as though this world wasn't for him anymore. I've never attended a funeral of someone who has taken that road - mainly because I hate how they felt they couldn't speak to me. This guy was great to me and one of the few (apart from here) who I did confide in and he listened. I feel more awful for going to this one if I never the others. What is the consensus? I'll still be at the wake - as I was the others, mostly. Just to add to my last reply, I spent at least a year or so having to get up multiple times a night to pish a tiny dribble, and never got that satisfying feeling of emptying my bladder, and developed a dull pain in my groin, but just thought it was just getting old so no point in bothering anyone about it. When I finally went to the doctor and he stuck his finger up my arse to find my prostate gland he more or less said Jesus f**k, that's huge, and sent me to the hospital. My point is not talking to someone when your depressed is pretty much the same as me thinking I was just getting old, he probably thought there was no point in talking about the way he was feeling because it he was just seeing the world as it was, instead of being a symptom of an illness. (Still feeling top notch by the way, 3 years and a bit later...) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TxRover Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 4 hours ago, Derry Alli said: Not really sure where to write this and I fully understand any backlash. I've a mates funeral tomorrow who felt as though this world wasn't for him anymore. I've never attended a funeral of someone who has taken that road - mainly because I hate how they felt they couldn't speak to me. This guy was great to me and one of the few (apart from here) who I did confide in and he listened. I feel more awful for going to this one if I never the others. What is the consensus? I'll still be at the wake - as I was the others, mostly. It is totally your choice, however a few thoughts: 1) The funeral isn’t a place where the means of a departure from life is judged, but instead a service for others processing the loss of the individual. 2) The loved ones of the departed gain support from others coming to show their feeling of loss and support. 3) He was taken by illness, a terrible illness that can strike anyone, any age and any situation. Mental illness is something that society is finally coming to grips with, and this is certainly a case of that. 4) You can go and remember the great mate he was. It wasn’t that he didn’t feel he could speak to you, it was that he wasn’t able to talk to anyone. Sometimes there simply isn’t anything that can be done, become some people never reach out. You cannot blame yourself for any of this. 5) Ask yourself if you might regret not going later. If you go to the wake before the funeral, you can judge if the funeral is for you based upon your reaction. I had a co-worker die shortly after I retired, so I went to the wake/visitation and found myself so overcome that I knew I should not attend the funeral.. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted March 15 Share Posted March 15 17 hours ago, welshbairn said: Just to add to my last reply, I spent at least a year or so having to get up multiple times a night to pish a tiny dribble, and never got that satisfying feeling of emptying my bladder, and developed a dull pain in my groin, but just thought it was just getting old so no point in bothering anyone about it. When I finally went to the doctor and he stuck his finger up my arse to find my prostate gland he more or less said Jesus f**k, that's huge, and sent me to the hospital. My point is not talking to someone when your depressed is pretty much the same as me thinking I was just getting old, he probably thought there was no point in talking about the way he was feeling because it he was just seeing the world as it was, instead of being a symptom of an illness. (Still feeling top notch by the way, 3 years and a bit later...) In 2019 my doctor checked my prostate too. I was 39 and went in with a pain in my knee. Not sure how I ended up on my side hugging my knees. I dare not go back to him with any ailment. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derry Alli Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 Yesterday was brilliant. Really not sure how ill get away with how pished I still am. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GordonD Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 3 hours ago, Derry Alli said: Yesterday was brilliant. Really not sure how ill get away with how pished I still am. ^^^^^ Chancellor of the Exchequer found 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 Edinburgh folk: I am at the National Museum in Chambers Street on Saturday. Where is a good place nearby to park? Will be there all day, and it needs to be close as I'm taking in equipment. Also needs to be an official-ish place that gives receipts. Cheers. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GordonD Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 31 minutes ago, scottsdad said: Edinburgh folk: I am at the National Museum in Chambers Street on Saturday. Where is a good place nearby to park? Will be there all day, and it needs to be close as I'm taking in equipment. Also needs to be an official-ish place that gives receipts. Cheers. There are parking spaces up the middle of the street but not sure if you could stay there all day. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tamthebam Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 2 hours ago, scottsdad said: Edinburgh folk: I am at the National Museum in Chambers Street on Saturday. Where is a good place nearby to park? Musselburgh. Seriously. Otherwise you'll likely be contributing a parking fine to Edinburgh Council's "this revenue definitely goes to road repairs and not Councillor's jollies" fund 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Florentine_Pogen Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 (edited) 3 hours ago, scottsdad said: Edinburgh folk: I am at the National Museum in Chambers Street on Saturday. Where is a good place nearby to park? Will be there all day, and it needs to be close as I'm taking in equipment. Also needs to be an official-ish place that gives receipts. Cheers. Chambers Street is a nightmare to park on atm as all the buses go up due to North Bridge closure. The nearest place I'm aware of that you could leave car is Buccleuch Place which is a 5 min. walk from NMS. Max. stay is 4 hrs and it's £4.10/hr. Edited March 16 by Florentine_Pogen 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Empty It Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 3 hours ago, scottsdad said: Edinburgh folk: I am at the National Museum in Chambers Street on Saturday. Where is a good place nearby to park? Will be there all day, and it needs to be close as I'm taking in equipment. Also needs to be an official-ish place that gives receipts. Cheers. George Square has a fair amount of parking or castle terrace car park both are expensive though. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottsdad Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 19 minutes ago, Empty It said: George Square has a fair amount of parking or castle terrace car park both are expensive though. I have found an NCP one a little bit away. It'll probably have to do - I'll just do my He-Man bit and humph the stuff round. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Florentine_Pogen Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 33 minutes ago, scottsdad said: I have found an NCP one a little bit away. It'll probably have to do - I'll just do my He-Man bit and humph the stuff round. Just remembered there is a car park in Nicolson Square. Cash only. https://nicolson-square-car-park.business.site/ 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgecutter Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 Going through Dundee last night, I'm convinced that I saw a road sign at this point below (Googlemaps 2021) spelled as 'Couper Angus' (i.e. Couper with an e , not Coupar with an a) Can anyone confirm or deny if there's been a signage f*** up? Junction at E. Marketgait and A92. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
19QOS19 Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 31 minutes ago, Hedgecutter said: Going through Dundee last night, I'm convinced that I saw a road sign at this point below (Googlemaps 2021) spelled as 'Couper Angus' (i.e. Couper with an e , not Coupar with an a) Can anyone confirm or deny if there's been a signage f*** up? Junction at E. Marketgait and A92. You're best asking @Hedgecutter. That spooky b*****d seems to know every sign and street in Scotland. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welshbairn Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 32 minutes ago, Hedgecutter said: Going through Dundee last night, I'm convinced that I saw a road sign at this point below (Googlemaps 2021) spelled as 'Couper Angus' (i.e. Couper with an e , not Coupar with an a) Can anyone confirm or deny if there's been a signage f*** up? Junction at E. Marketgait and A92. You can't trust anyone on here, you'll have to go back or you'll never sleep again. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim McLean's Ghost Posted March 16 Share Posted March 16 38 minutes ago, Hedgecutter said: Going through Dundee last night, I'm convinced that I saw a road sign at this point below (Googlemaps 2021) spelled as 'Couper Angus' (i.e. Couper with an e , not Coupar with an a) Can anyone confirm or deny if there's been a signage f*** up? Junction at E. Marketgait and A92. You can go back and look at older pictures on Google maps. Looks like the same sign has been there since 2012 and always said Coupar Angus. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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