Tinder

[Florentine_Pogen]

my experience of my 6 months on tinder back in 2018
90% won't match with you
of those who do 90% won't chat with you
of those who do chat 90 % will say a few lines then stop replying ( ghosting)
of those who keep chatting around 75 % won't be interested in a face to face meeting
BUT when who you do  get to meet face to face , the chances of getting your hole are actually pretty decent
I only met up 7 burds whilst I was on it but I pumped 4 of them , all on the first meeting .
it's just a numbers game.
 

Ah, romance in the 21st C.

[effeffsee_the2nd]

4 hours ago, Florentine_Pogen said:

 

 

 

Ah, romance in the 21st C.

 

Perhaps it does sound grim, but imagine it just like a pub or club but on a massive scale . just like in a real environment although the place might be absolutely hoachin , most of the women in their won't be interested in you. but through sheer weight of numbers there will most likely be somebody that wants what you want .

If you live in a populated area , like I do . then there are tens of thousands of people like you who live within 20 miles of you ( for me that takes in Glasgow, Edinburgh Stirling etc ) who you simply won't cross paths with real life. but unlike going out on the pull in real life, where you are constricted by having to actually get dressed up, go out, hope that the place you go to actually has any talent and then you are also restricted to how often you can do this because of time and money. with tinder once you set your profile up it goes into cyberspace and works 24/7 for you. you can also be chatting to more than 1 burd at the same time which of course would not be a good idea in the real world.

I was sceptical about it to begin with but there's just no way you can compete with that kind of efficiency

[super_carson]

I met my other half on tinder, and I know plenty other couples (some married with kids now) who met through a dating apps. It is a normal way to meet someone these days and lockdown has probably just encouraged that.

It is a bit hit or miss, and it absolutely can be quite soul destroying if you feel that you don't get many matches. I'd just say remember that tinder and apps like it are, by their very nature, quite shallow and superficial but anyone who outright rejects someone based on their looks probably isn't worth the time of the day.

I quite liked the chatting to part of it, even if nothing ever came of it and you'll know fairly quickly if someone isn't interested. It's easier said than done, but try not to take it too seriously as well. It definitely is easier when you're younger, but if you don't take it too seriously it can be a bit of a laugh.

I do always enjoy some of the horror stories that my female friends tell from these things though.

[Stevie Aitken's Love Child]

On 19/04/2021 at 15:16, effeffsee_the2nd said:

Perhaps it does sound grim, but imagine it just like a pub or club but on a massive scale . just like in a real environment although the place might be absolutely hoachin , most of the women in their won't be interested in you. but through sheer weight of numbers there will most likely be somebody that wants what you want .

If you live in a populated area , like I do . then there are tens of thousands of people like you who live within 20 miles of you ( for me that takes in Glasgow, Edinburgh Stirling etc ) who you simply won't cross paths with real life. but unlike going out on the pull in real life, where you are constricted by having to actually get dressed up, go out, hope that the place you go to actually has any talent and then you are also restricted to how often you can do this because of time and money. with tinder once you set your profile up it goes into cyberspace and works 24/7 for you. you can also be chatting to more than 1 burd at the same time which of course would not be a good idea in the real world.

I was sceptical about it to begin with but there's just no way you can compete with that kind of efficiency

I just find this so fucking tragic, in addition to the number given a few posts above.

I have no desire to have anything to do with someone who is overly superficial, and that's how dating apps work, but understand that a pandemic means that meeting someone in person is just impossible. It's a real catch 22, which is what is keeping me trying when I really don't want to be on the apps.

I've tried all the apps and experienced the same thing with them all really. I guess I'm I should just accept that I'm hacket and move on.

[Inanimate Carbon Rod]

53 minutes ago, Stevie Aitken's Love Child said:

I just find this so fucking tragic, in addition to the number given a few posts above.

I have no desire to have anything to do with someone who is overly superficial, and that's how dating apps work, but understand that a pandemic means that meeting someone in person is just impossible. It's a real catch 22, which is what is keeping me trying when I really don't want to be on the apps.

I've tried all the apps and experienced the same thing with them all really. I guess I'm I should just accept that I'm hacket and move on.

Have you thought about using one of the paid dating sites like Match or whatever? More likely to meet people who share the same values or interests and its people who are maybe a bit more serious about actually dating? Good luck. 

[alta-pete]

My experience of using sites 10 or so years ago confirms this. The free sites encouraged lots of aimless users just hooering for attention and, in a direct correlation, the more expensive the subscription, the more serious people were about getting into actual meets.

I think it stands scrutiny - if your paying for the service of introducing you to potential partners, you’ll want as many as possible in as short a space of time. Most users aren’t going to pay £xx/month just to start chatting online and then patch people. 

[ICTChris]

3 hours ago, oaksoft said:

That would be me too.

I think the difficult part would be not taking it too personally if they stop talking to you or reject a match with you (however the thing works).

Not sure it would have been for me if I was young and single again but it's clear this sort of thing works for lots of people including you so fair play to you. Life is too short to worry about how you meet your partner.

Would you tell potential matches about your script?

[Sergeant Wilson]

7 hours ago, oaksoft said:

 My preference though, would be to join some kind of hobby group and try meeting people through that network.

I'm surprised more women don't try on here.

 "Hot woman, into football seeks alcohol dependent, virginal loner. Must not have a car or house".

[Shandon Par]

29 minutes ago, Sergeant Wilson said:

 

 "Hot woman, into football seeks alcohol dependent, virginal loner. Must not have a car or house".

Sounds like my type. Got a number for her?

[Melanius Mullarkey]

“I used to be a scientist. Do you want to see my Bunsen burner? It’s big and hot”

[Bert Raccoon]

1 hour ago, Sergeant Wilson said:

I'm surprised more women don't try on here.

 "Hot woman, into football seeks alcohol dependent, virginal loner. Must not have a car or house".

Excuse me. I've had relations with at least two women 

[Bert Raccoon]

2 minutes ago, oaksoft said:

I think Sarge is talking about sexual relations.

Your mother and your gran don't count.

And  if they DO, I certainly don't want to know.

You really are quite a creepy b*****d aren't you? Genuinely make my skin crawl 

 

[Zen Archer (Raconteur)]

11 minutes ago, oaksoft said:

Who the f**k is still using Bunsen Burners these days?

Schools, hospital labs, universities.

[Melanius Mullarkey]

5 hours ago, oaksoft said:

Who the f**k is still using Bunsen Burners these days? 

Hotplates and magnetic stirrers replaced Bunsen Burners years ago. Science has moved on a bit from the 1900's.

If I were you I would go with my Bunsen burner line. 

[Busta Nut]

11 hours ago, oaksoft said:

Who the f**k is still using Bunsen Burners these days? 

Hotplates and magnetic stirrers replaced Bunsen Burners years ago. Science has moved on a bit from the 1900's.

I am calling bullshit that no one uses Bunsen Burners. 

[Busta Nut]

46 minutes ago, oaksoft said:

Why?

Won't be many places nowadays.

Maybe schools due to the cost of replacing them.

I can't believe any credible professional lab would ever use them unless there was some highly specialised test where there was no other characterisation method available. Would expect the vast majority of good universities to have done away with them as well.

They are a major safety hazard and much safer, low-cost technology has largely replaced them.

The university I worked at, replaced them from all chemistry labs about 12 years ago.

cos it is you basically.

[Derry Alli]

It's always riveting when Oaksoft gets involved. Where once the discussion was online dating in less than 24hrs he's managed to somehow turn it to shagging your own gran and the poor cost return on using bunsen burners in laboratories. 

Suffering fucking christ. 

[Derry Alli]

Advice sought. 

Went back on Tinder after the last split up and got on okay with it. There's a lassie that's always caught my eye on it and this morning we matched. She's messaged. 

I've been 'off it' a couple weeks though. I'm meeting someone but we both openly admit to still having it installed on our phones but not really paying much attention to it. 

She's a nice lassie. She seems like it could work but I'm now stuck between wanting to message this other girl or saying to the girl I'm with now "right we both have to delete tinder". 

Whattama gunnadooo? 

[Blootoon87]

Advice sought. 
Went back on Tinder after the last split up and got on okay with it. There's a lassie that's always caught my eye on it and this morning we matched. She's messaged. 
I've been 'off it' a couple weeks though. I'm meeting someone but we both openly admit to still having it installed on our phones but not really paying much attention to it. 
She's a nice lassie. She seems like it could work but I'm now stuck between wanting to message this other girl or saying to the girl I'm with now "right we both have to delete tinder". 
Whattama gunnadooo? 

What would Matt Hancock do?

[killiepiemuncher]