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[Loonytoons]

22 minutes ago, bennett said:

 

McDonald's to remove 'tasteless' sign opposite Cornwall crematorium

The advertising poster next to the sign for Penmount Crematorium has largely been greeted with hilarity

Burger giant McDonald's has said it will remove a "tasteless" sign opposite a crematorium in Cornwall after the unfortunate coincidental placement was pointed out by CornwallLive. Although the advertising hoarding has caused hilarity among motorists who spot it on the busy A39, others fear it may upset grieving families.

The sign, advertising the fast food chain's McCrispy burger, is right next to a crematorium sign and has been placed on a bus stop directly opposite Penmount Crematorium on the road between Truro and Carland Cross.

One woman, whose mother-in-law was cremated at the establishment last year, said: "Although I can see the funny side, it is tasteless and I'm sure some grieving family members won't like to see it when visiting Penmount for the funeral and cremation of a loved one.

"No worse than our local council entertaining the idea of allowing a crematorium to be built next door to a retirement village."

"Fell off the chair laughing." And, of course: "I’m lovin’ it" - the chain's slogan

 

 

 

 

Bit of a faux pas stating it was tasteless.

[tamthebam]

13 hours ago, Florentine_Pogen said:

Currently having an issue with British Gas, won't bore you with details but came across this wee snippet someone left at the end of their review of BG after having been mucked around by them for months.

It is exactly how I feel about BG / Scottish Power at the moment.

"British Gas, is a perfect example of how broken, and rapidly declining Britain has become. Poor service, duplicity, incompetence and a profound lack of responsibility, culpability and accountability. It's not just the government, it's the entire infrastructure and mentality of the society. A society unwilling to get their hands dirty and make the changes so desperately needed, a society that has allowed this sickness to take root, spread and prevail."

We're run by spivs basically 

[Florentine_Pogen]

6 minutes ago, tamthebam said:

We're run by spivs basically 

Absolutely. And it starts at the top, from Buck House to Downing Street to the City of London.

The fact that we are such an apathetic island doesn't help either......................

[hk blues]

7 hours ago, tamthebam said:

We're run by spivs basically 

For sure, but that's not the message from that quote - it says that it's not just government but society as a whole that's f****d.

[Derry Alli]

13 hours ago, Miguel Sanchez said:

I've just read the last five years of my bank account statements and I'm overwhelmed by how futile my life is.

Could be worse mate, I read my last 6 months transactions and it's genuinely scary how much the gear has taken / I've spent on it.

[Bert Raccoon]

15 hours ago, Venti said:

Hogwarts Legacy is like a shite poundland version of World of Warcraft.

Don't waste your money.

Well I won't because I'm an adult 

[Venti]

1 minute ago, Bert Raccoon said:

Well I won't because I'm an adult 

Best gamers I know are auld yins.

[Derry Alli]

I love peanut M&M's. Nonplussed about the 'crispy' ones and am not too fond of the chocolate ones. I have just returned from the local corner confectionery connoisseur cave with a pack of M&M's mix and it's rocketed to the top 3 on my sweet chart.

[DA Baracus]

Sorry if this isn't the place for this, and apologies for the lengthy post. 

 

My mum died last Friday. I got a phone call at 02.45 from my dad. At first I thought it was my alarm but thought that it far too early for it, then I realised that it was my ringtone. As soon as I saw that it was my dad calling I knew it wasn't good news and had pretty much guessed what he was going to tell me. He told me that she had just died. He was in absolute bits. All I could manage was just a stunned "Oh". f**k sake.

 

Got down the road as soon as I could. My two brothers live much closer so were able to get to my dad's house earlier. My mum died at home.

 

Later found out that my dad has tried doing CPR on her for 20 minutes before the paradamedics arrived, and they then tried for about 45 minutes, along with two shots of adrenaline.

 

Some more grisly details:

Seems like she has undiagnosed stomach cancer that no one knew about, probably including her (although she knew something was up), and a tumour had developed that drastically restricted digestion. She hadn't bee ln eating for days, and had lost loads of weight over the last few months. She was due to go to the GP on the day she died. That night she had breathing difficulties and was coughing loads, so my dad called 111 who advised to get her to A&E as soon as he could. He tried to get her to sit up but she wasn't able to and at this point the paradamedics were called. My dad thinks she was dead at this point, literally in his arms, but as noted there were attempts at CPR. She aspirated something vile in and her body was too weak to do anything about it.

 

Last weekend was a total blur. Me and my brother, and their spouses, were with my dad at his house as much as we could be. He was really not doing well on Friday, which was so hard to see. He thankfully was better on Saturday. On Sunday my mum's brothers, their wives and my gran (my mum's mum) came round. My dad explained the stuff in spoilers and that was really tough.

 

We went to the funeral director on Tuesday and have sorted everything for the funeral (the week after next). 

 

I'm strangely doing not too bad. I feel a bit guilty as I feel I should be way more upset, but then I know my mum wouldn't want me to be. I'm not sure if it hasn't fully sunk in yet and maybe after the funeral it really will and things will be tougher, but I'm not sure that will be the case. This will sound fucked up, but I have a feeling of almost 'relief', as my mum had some struggles but they're now over. 

 

The hardest part has been seeing my dad so upset and how hard it has been on him. Me and my brothers, and their spouses (easier than writing 'wife and husband'!) are doing all we can for him, and he does seem to be doing a lot better, but we don't see him every day when he's alone. It will be a huge adjustment for him. They got married 43 years ago!

 

There's been much talking and tears but we have a way forward and we're all going to see each other more. My dad had a talk with me where things in the past were discussed, things which used to really upset me, and he expressed remorse and guilt for it, but suddenly it all just doesn't matter any more and what matters is how things will be going forward. There were periods where I didn't see my mum and dad for many months, in a couple of cases over a year, and I think I actually grieved a bit then over that, which may be why I don't feel as bad as I think I maybe should at the moment

 

I have a strange feeling that my life is now changed and is changing more, and strangely probably for the better (mentally I mean; lots of things that really got to me just don't matter any longer), although of course I would never have wanted that to be at the cost of my mum. I have no doubt there will be tough times going forward, and the funeral will be really hard (I'll be speaking at it), and my dad will struggle at times (he also has chronic lymphocitic leukemia to complicate matters), but I'm strangely optimistic about things and that we can get through this relatively 'unscathed'.

 

I feel a bit heartless saying such things but I don't mean to, and I hope I don't come across that I didn't love my mum (I did) and am glad she's gone (I'm not) or that I'm not upset (I am). It's clichéd but she wouldn't have wanted me, or the rest of my family, to be so upset and to have her death f**k our lives up.

 

Anyway, sorry for the long rambling nonsense, but it felt good to type it out.

 

Edited February 11, 2023 by DA Baracus

[Sergeant Wilson]

There's no right or wrong at times like this. (There is, but you'd need to be quite extreme in your behaviour to get it wrong). My parents popped off and I was ok and moved on. My mates died and he was a bit of a wreck for while. Others are still into visiting graves etc. None of which is for me.

[Derry Alli]

Sorry for your loss, DA. Stay strong, mate.

[Brother Blades]

@DA Baracus sorry for your loss, hopefully your positivity in tough circumstances help you & your loved ones. 

[101]

Sorry for your loss DA, take care of yourself.

[Cosmic Joe]

My greenie should have been a

[Andy Dufresne]

So sorry for your loss DA Baracus

 

 

[19QOS19]

20 hours ago, johnnydun said:

Anyone else read that in a Nigerian accent? 

 

 

 

My condolences @DA Baracus

[GordonD]

1 hour ago, DA Baracus said:

I feel a bit guilty as I feel I should be way more upset, but then I know my mum wouldn't want me to be.

Don't be. Different people react in different ways. When my mum died I thought I would be in bits but things just went on as normally as they could.

[johnnydun]

Much love @DA Baracus.

Stay strong brother.

[welshbairn]

My dad died in 2016 and my mum last November. Both times were a mixture of sadness and relief, both had a rough time the last few days so it felt like death was a kindness. In both cases there was too much to do to feel or think about the loss too much, didn't get tearful until the funerals. I was prime carer for both so I'm feeling a smidgeon of irrational guilt about enjoying not having to arrange cover to go to the fitba. Sometimes if my mind's drifting, alone on a bus or something, I start welling up a bit, but they were both in their nineties and were looked after at home till nearly the very end, so it's not them I get sad for, and it's not an unpleasant feeling, just remembering. 

[Rugster]

Deepest condolences @DA Baracus take care pal.